To blame ILs for DS terrible sleeping?!

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Slightly lighthearted but slightly a rant to get off my chest!

So 6mo DS started comfort feeding through the night after being poorly so I had been doing the no cry sleep solution over the last few weeks. Great success when we had managed to get his night wakings to 2 (from 6+) anyways then comes Saturday night and the do we/dont we go out dilemma. DH says its fine my mum and dad will babysit.

We both outline the dos and donts according to what we've been doing for last few weeks, e.g. If he wakes dont turn light on, dont take him downstairs, try not to make too much fuss as he gets very over stimulated quickly an can be wide awake within seconds and then will want to feed.
Anyway get a txt to say he's woken, FIL is trying to settle him and not to worry. So i txt again an hour later and he is still awake, so we come home early.

Pull up outside and can see ALL the lights on, get in and ds is asleep on the sofa, toys next to him where they have obviously tried to play with him to get him to stop crying. I told them to txt if he wouldnt settle and they didnt so i had assumed they had got him back to sleep ok. We were only 5 mins away from home.
I can understand that they were probably nervous and just did what they thought was right at the time but its not the first time they have dismissed doing something a specific way for a reason.

Every night since then ds has been so bad at sleeping and is often wide awake in the middle of the night, something he has never done. He is really hard to get to sleep and wont sleep longer than an hour without waking and needing help to get back off to sleep (something we had managed to curb with sleep training)
I am so exhausted and am starting to lose my patience and then i feel so guilty. Im really struggling. He has only just gone to sleep now and he's been in his crib since 9.15. (Not usually this late)
This could all be due to teething/growth spurt etc but it is just a coincidence that it has been this bad since that night!

Sorry ended up to be all rant im afraid. Feel a little better to have written it all down now though.
Think it will be a long time before i let them babysit again!

as a gp who has been put in the babysitting position myself I c an assure you from our point of view its no picnic. Much as I adore my beloved gc when looking after a wakeful child or toddler who wakes at night and only wants his mother you do whatever you can to make that child happy and secure and if that means bringing him downstairs to help soothe the outrage that child feels then so be it, you can only do what you feel is right.

Am with Jolly here. I wouldn't have left a DC to be settled by someone else at that stage without expecting disruption.

Also, unlikely that one night's deviation with your Pils would make him so unsettled with you for so long afterwards. It probably is down to something else I'm afraid.

You have my sympathies though, lack of sleep is grim and so easy to feel the rage towards anyone who might have contributed, however well meaning.

I think the only way you can expect someone else to maintain the sleep training you're doing with your DCs is if you're paying a professional. Friends and family babysitting as a kindness need to feel free to soothe your distressed child as best they can.