exhausted and another 4/5 months of this

[marriedinwhiteagain]

New job - two months in (not planned)
Two teenagers - different schools
DS off to uni in Sept
DC both have school trips coming up - organising
DD's fete at weekend and have said will do an hour on a stall and some baking
Moving - half way through a refurb project
Holiday coming up and house critical things coming up.

Today was a typical day: up at 6ish, dropped dd for school bus, dropped ds at school - drove to work (slunk to loo to put on make-up), hard day at work then sainsbury's, then unpacked, then cooked dinner, fed cat, put on load of washing.

Tom night have a meeting with builders ad decisions to make before they order the interesting stuff, fete on Saturday, church lunch to make puds for on sunday.

There is nothing to give, no slack, DH not home yet.

I don't often have a moan but am so tired, have had half a bottle of wine and starting to feel panicky.

Will be fine when we move in bit yesterday there was so much exposed plaster and so much dust and so many decisions to make I just can't see it and feel like crying.

It will be ok; small things first.

Is Internet shopping feasible?

Buy puds. Really, it is allowed.

Do you need to organise the trips or children's attendance on them. How old are children - they can help probably

DS is going to uni in September/October. You do not need to think about this now. Plus he's got to emerge from his post A level euphoria/sleep first.

YANBU. You sound like you've taken a big bite of life and your jaw is aching.

Prioritise. If possible.

Dig deep. If possible.

Plough though.

How long until your dust settles (refurb wise?)

Take a step back from the charitable things for now, you can make up for it later and no one worth anything would judge you for that... "sorry, I just don't have time right now, but please count me in next time" is perfectly valid!!!

Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Although I'm not religious, I'm pretty sure God or the vicar will absolutely understand if you step back for a few weeks. Our PTA chair has had to step aside (not down) for a few weeks as her life's just gone batshit crazy, no one minds, she puts so much effort in that no one minds at all... in fact, we ganged up on her a little - her karma balance is good, she has well earned a break.

Good luck. xxx

Thanks Aldi. Hope to be in new house before Xmas (then have this one to refurb and before then some really hard decisions to make about what's kept and what goes - not least the house 20 years of home!!)

I work full time and don't do anything to help at school - do make coffee occasionally at church but would never ever make a pud ! Doubt it would be edible anywat :-)

Can teenagers get themselves to school ? especially as its summer - also make sure they have jobs to help you out around the house during the holidays.

And online food shopping - I HATE food shopping.

Everytime I've on-line food shopped there have been probs with the delivery time or the substitutes. I like to chose fresh food generally and if I go to do that might as well pick up the comestibles x

DD's bus goes at 7.45 and she wd have to get a bus to the school bus stop and thAt just seems unfair.

Ocado are good. They come when they say they will and rarely substitute.

How old is dd and how long is the bus ride?

She's 15. Prob 20 mins on the bus to school pick-up point and then about 30-40 mins on the school bus - not doable on public transport. School's 20 miles away and I accept it's our choice. When we move it will be easier.

Not really workable no, certainly not everyday, although not the end of the world occasionally so I think Aldi's advice can be applied here too.

Term will finish in a few weeks I assume which will help. I do appreciate that this doesn't help in the short term.

Aldi is right you can step back from the charity things short term. People will understand and it's ok not to keep all the balls in the air sometimes.

Hope you got all the orders with the builders in ok

Ditch the baking. Seriously.....I was all of a flutter about my DDs fete in between work and other stuff when I thought....actually no...I CANT do all day on the stall I normally do (specific skills involved so no help at all) I just cant. And I cant bake either. I am doing half an hour on another.

Like you I work and have school trip to sort and party to arrange. It's all too much!