To be amazed that dh got narky over a cream bun?

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Fgs! Went shopping for tea, and bought dd a cream doughnut as a treat. They came in a pack of 2. She ate hers.

Dh came home and asked who the second one was for. I said mine in a jokey voice, not caring in the least whether I had it or not.

He then does a cats arse mouth, and says I should have bought everyone one. But they come in packs of 2, which would have meant a spare one. Anyway he has never shown any interest in them before. I said he could have it, as I didn't want it. but, no, he should have had his own.

So now he isn't talking to me. because of a Fucking doughnut! Is this for real?!

I would have bought 4 - one for the child one for the DP and 2 for me!

I don't understand the 'spare one' thing. How can anybody have spare cake?

This made me larf! But also "Ahhh" sweet domesticity too, squabbling over cream buns . You'll be sad when its just you and the cat !

exactly solesource - I would do my duty and eat the leftovers to save wasting it!

Well the pizza thing is frankly ridiculous. Presumably as it was your DD's birthday she got to choose what you had for dinner? Saying he didnt want one and then throwing a strop when he didnt get one is so childish and PA that it beggars belief.

I wouldnt be thinking "ahh poor man must have had a bad day" I would be thinking "I am sick of his twattish petulant strops" and have LOUD words about it.

Oh absolutely. I would have been furious if I had been in the same situation ( not a hypocrite at all) but I didn't want it, and was happy for him to have, and he doesn't like them

Was I supposed to second guess his sudden burning desire for a frigging doughnut?!

My children once argued so much about 6 small cupcakes I'd made,(what time can we have them? How many can we have? On and bloody on for hours) I shoved the whole lot in my mouth including the paper cases. That shut them up, but it was not my finest hour!

Cees seems to give very similar advice on these threads. On the last one I read, about a Dh with noisy eating habits, she suggested stabbing him with his fork. Nice person!

You both must be knackered. Tell him next time the extra one's his, and give him a glass of wine. Someone's got to start the virtuous circle of being nice to each other (even if you are both knackered)

She shouldn't have to think 'If he doesn't want that, might he like this?' That's how you might manage a five year old, but an adult?

I would not indulge that behaviour even once. Next time he gets stroppy that you didn't order the pizza he didn't want, or didn't bring him a cake he doesn't even like, ignore him. Definitely don't try and mollify him and reward his bad behaviour.

I would be embarrassed for my dp if he acted like that.

BillComptonstrousers at your control strategy of eating all the cupcakes

Holden but he doesn't like them.

OK, I'll try to be nicer about it. Do you ever bring treats home for him, OP, and does he for you?

Yes, we both bring them for each other.

I obviously failed in my wifely duty

It obviously made an impact as they still tell people about it 6 years later OP, you should have smushed it in his face, see how he liked that!

He sounds like a total pita to live with - I wouldn't have any patience with this childishness. You shouldn't have to manage your partner's behaviour as if he was a child.

Tell him to say what he means (wrt the pizza ordering) or stfu!

I would have eaten the cake too - he doesn't like them so why would you get him one. I'm sure he walks past a shop periodically and can buy junk food for himself if he's so keen to have it.

Have to say that I think he would have been wearing the bloody doughnut if that had been my OH.