Wedding invites- must be the season for it.

[Littleturkish]

My DP and I are getting married in a very low key ceremony. We are only having immediate family and an aunt and uncle on his side that we're very close to- he sees his uncle about once a week and I see his aunt about the same. We're very fond of them- we're not inviting other aunts and uncles as we never see them and if we did it would mean inviting 12 sets of aunts and uncles- so 24 extra people.

This aunt and uncle have four children we are also close to- they range from 17-23. I think we should invite them too, my DP says no, it will upset the other relatives. I think it is rude not to.

AIBU?

Do you want to invite them because they are close to you or because they are the Aunt's and Uncle's children?

I want to invite them because we are close to them, I really like them and we see them a lot. It feels odd to not have them there.

My DD2 is getting married next year and the decisions they have made when the number of guests were decided were the that each of them decided which of their relatives attended.

It appears to be your DF who is deciding his cousins cannot attend so I think it is his choice.

In that case YANBU.

Although as there are four of them is your DP worried that this snowballing the wedding into being a bit bigger than he'd hoped. You don't say how many are in your immediate family but I'm imagining this is increasing the size of the party by at least a third.

It sounds like you should invite them.

Mrs L it would up the numbers from 17 to 21 (including myself and DP).

Thanks for your views, I didn't think I was being U.

Invite them because you are close to them and it may cause hard feelings if you dont. If they decline because if pre existing committments then atleast you invited them and your relationship will remain unchanged. The other relations are not as important but I do think you should invite the cousins because you see them & are close to them.

Alternatively, you could have a weekday ceremony and invite the other relations knowing not everybody can make it due to work. Atleast you have invited them to keep the family 'peace'.

Remember, just because you invite doesnt mean they will accept so you can over invite.