AIBU?
Alibabaandthe40nappies · 19/06/2013 23:23
Spare room definitely. I would be really hurt.
DH and I were discussing this the other day actually. He works with a bunch of people who stay up in London during the week and then go home at weekends to their family, they all live a long way north so daily commuting is impossible. He said it is amazing how many of them organise to go out drinking on the Friday night, because they are so used to being away from home that it doesn't feel like home any longer and they find the children incredibly hard work because they aren't used to spending time with them. So they get lashed on a Friday night and head home, hungover in time for lunch on Saturday - hardly a life, is it?
Colleagues who commute daily like he does are out of there like a shot on a Friday afternoon evening to get home and start their weekend with their family.
The more they are away, the more they want to be away. It is very sad.
reggiebean · 19/06/2013 23:30
YABU. Are you leaving again soon for a long time, or is there something preventing the three of you from spending time together at the weekend, or tomorrow night, or any other night?
He had a night out, so what? You just got back from a massive trip and are probably knackered, he just got off work, so probably wants a drink... Just get some rest and tell him you'd like some quality time together this weekend or something.
reggiebean · 19/06/2013 23:46
Ah, my apologies Elemis. Still, I think the same reasoning applies (mostly). I don't think it warrants a banishment out of the bedroom, or a big chat. Mention it to him that it hurt your feelings, and you'd appreciate a family night sometime soon to make up for it. I still don't see it being a big deal, sorry.
WorraLiberty · 19/06/2013 23:52
I don't think the OP was talking about banishing him from the bedroom...I mean how exactly could she do that? I think she means she wants to sleep in the spare room?
I think a long heart to heart would probably achieve more though OP
It sounds as things aren't right in your relationship.
reggiebean · 20/06/2013 00:20
Ugh, sorry again! I clearly need to go to bed! 
Read it as OP making her husband sleep in the spare room, hence my response that I thought that was a bit harsh! (I was imagining locked bedroom door, pillow in the hall, etc.... Just really thought it was an over-reaction!)
Off to bed now so I can read properly again in the morning 
elemis · 20/06/2013 17:35
He is meeting a friend that's here visiting
Won't be late he says
He does go out a far bit, meets up with friends for one or 2 after work. Plenty of client functions
I don't usually mind too much
But this seems a bit off because he hasn't seen us for a while
Coolasaurus · 20/06/2013 18:12
I would tell him that you are unable to provide childcare tonight whilst he does as he pleases again like a single man goes out, as you have stayed in for 3 weeks whilst he has been away. So therefore if he wants to go out tonight he will have to arrange a babysitter
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