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To be really pissed off and upset

44 replies

chazbomb · 19/06/2013 21:58

DH got us robbie Williams tickets for my Xmas pressie. Tonight told DS1 and DS2 we were going and grandma and grandpa will either babysit or they will have a sleep over there (which they have done before) both burst into tears and refused to go. So I told DH to put tickets on ebay as I don't feel it's fair to leave my parent with 2 screaming kids for the night, plus DS has school the day and ds2 has his school induction.

But get this DH ex wife calls re something about ss and he offers her the tickets (not foc) but that just finished me off he knows how pissed off I am about not going and then does that!!! Aibu?? Sad

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IloveJudgeJudy · 19/06/2013 21:59

Just go. Leave your DC with your parents/let your parents babysit. Don't let the DC dictate what you're going to do. What will you do if they burst into tears every time you say they've got to stay somewhere else? If you've got to go to hospital?

Also agree that offering the tickets to ex-wife was very insensitive.

ThedementedPenguin · 19/06/2013 22:01

YABU. You told him to sell them. He sold them

verytellytubby · 19/06/2013 22:01

How old are your kids? I'm sure your parents can cope for one night.

Shutupanddrive · 19/06/2013 22:01

Agree you should just go!

Hassled · 19/06/2013 22:01

You should go. Your parents will cope - they coped with you when you were a squawking small child, didn't they? They'll manage.

livinginwonderland · 19/06/2013 22:02

YABU. You told him to sell them and he did. Why does it matter who he sells them to?

I would have just gone to the concert, though.

OhBuggerandArse · 19/06/2013 22:02

Why on earth would you react like that to your kids throwing a wobbly?

Feelslikea1sttimer · 19/06/2013 22:02

I think yabu to allow the children to dictate, I'm sure like most kids they would have cried for 30 seconds after you leave the house but stop as soon as you get off the drive

But I would be very grumpy too if they were offered to the ExW but I'd rather bin them than let my DP's Ex have them!

MrsCosmopilite · 19/06/2013 22:03

I'd say it was unreasonable to buy Robbie Williams tickets in the first place :)

Seriously, I don't think you should let your DC's dictate whether you should go out or not in this instance. If the situation was that one or both of them were ill then fair enough, but just because they don't want you to go out - not on.

WinkyWinkola · 19/06/2013 22:05

I would have told dcs two days before the event. That way they can only beef for two days. I wouldn't let them dictate my evenings when they're as old as your dcs.

You need to tell them it's happening and they will have a great time/be safe with their gps.

Your dh's ex is a red herring here but do not sell her the tix.

LastTangoInDevonshire · 19/06/2013 22:05

You have seriously let your DC dictate whether you go out or not? YABU in the extreme.

I presume grandparents aren't strangers?

CalamityJ · 19/06/2013 22:06

Just go! They may have thrown a strop tonight but you know kids! Sweeten the deal with some gentle bribing then enjoy your Xmas present (it's JUNE you've been waiting ages!!). YADBU if you don't go Grin

stiffstink · 19/06/2013 22:06

When is the gig? Presumably not tonight if he was going to Ebay them?

YABU to overreact like that because your kids are crying about something they will have got over by the day of the gig. Tell your kids that they have the choices you gave them- go to GPs or GPs come to you.

HollyBerryBush · 19/06/2013 22:06

It's six months until Christmas.

MrsLouisTheroux · 19/06/2013 22:07

Why have you let your DC call the shots? That's crazy. YABU to tell your DH to sell them (when he bought them as a present) and then complain about who buys them.

RunnerHasbeen · 19/06/2013 22:07

Can't you leave the DCs with DH and phone round a few friends to go with you instead?

Go, do it now!

I think it is unreasonable to focus on what he did after you said you weren't going, I have a husband that is annoyingly logical and would do similar and not see why it might be upsetting. YABU about not going, surely there are a number of solutions which mean you are not the one to lose out.

LastTangoInDevonshire · 19/06/2013 22:08

Holly - what ARE you on about? She got the tickets LAST Christmas and the concert is soon!!

HazleNutt · 19/06/2013 22:08

YABU to let DC ruin the plans

TheCutOfYourJib · 19/06/2013 22:09

Wow.
Your kids throw a strop and you don't go to a concert.
Speechless really.

BridgetBidet · 19/06/2013 22:11

YABU and being a bit of a martyr.

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chazbomb · 19/06/2013 22:11

I don't normally let them dictate but as its a school night and ds2 has his induction I'm just concerned he will be knakered. Really would love to go but feel guilty now Ds's have reacted this way. Grrrr really don't know what to do. Fallen out with DH now too as I had a go at him about offering tickets to exw Confused

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ihearsounds · 19/06/2013 22:11

Oh wow. Your children call the shots.. Why?

RollerCola · 19/06/2013 22:11

YABU to be upset now, after you've told your dh to sell them (although I agree that he probably shouldn't have offered them to his ex wife, but that's not really the issue)

You were, however, also very silly to cancel your night just because your children objected. You cannot let them dictate your life like this, you just can't.

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chazbomb · 19/06/2013 22:14

Ds1 has adhd, his throwing wobbly is horrific. I just feel bad imposing that on my parents as they are in their 70's

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TheCutOfYourJib · 19/06/2013 22:16

So what if ds2 is knackered for one day, not the end of world.
You've only got yourself to blame for being so pissed off.
Still can't believe you let your children dictate when you go out.