To be angry with exDP?

[CrapsWithBears]

Handed my 4 month old DD to exDP this morning, she was wearing a cardigan and tights with a summer dress as it was breezy. Told him it was going to get hot later so he would need to take them off of her.

I was right, it's the hottest day of the year so far, and he brings her back after an hour long journey wearing the cardigan and tights, boiling hot. This is the third time I've asked him to make sure she's not too hot during the summer weather and the third time he hasn't done it.

On top of that, I cloth nappy her but he refuses to use them despite the fact that the nappy rash she did have has disappeared when she's in them. I changed her after he left and she's got a massive red rash on her bum and bits that wasn't there when I handed her over to him, so it's possibly a nappy rash/heat rash.

AIBU to be annoyed?

Does he not change her at all when he has her? Or does he put her in sposies?

He changes her straight into sposies, wouldn't even entertain the idea of cloth nappies. I use wipes too. I want him to use cloth with her but there's no way I can make sure he does when he has her.

Plus he just takes any advice I give him as me being nasty or criticizing his parenting.

I use cloth wipes I mean, I think it might be because he's using wet wipes and leaving her damp.

Hmmm, I dunno tbh. Yes he probably should have stripped her down to less clothes, but I have friends who cover their dc up on days like today to.avoid sunburn.

Like you say, you cant make him use cloth. My now ex hated the fact that I used cloth on ds2, and moaned every time he did a nappy.

I'd give him leeway if he was worried about her burning but I made sure he bought her suncream after the first time she was left covered up in boiling weather.

Don't know what I'm going to do, this isn't the first time she's come back with a rash after being in sposies.

The nappy issue wouldnt annoy me, perhaps pop her in a disposbale of your choosing before he picks her up - my wee one is allegic to tesco ones sonu could try some different makes. My dh wouldnt use cloth - he really doesnt like them so I use cloth when Im home and if dh is on kiddy duty he uses disposables.

You know what he is like so I would dress her in light clothing and pop a blanket over her instead. Sounds like he just didnt think tbh.

Or go for a simple dressy baby grow with a blanket.

Good idea mum I did put her in a thin summer dress assuming that'd be fine, I'll make sure just to chuck over her.

Not sure about the nappies, I can see if he'll try and change what nappies he's using with her. He has her for most of the day so it wouldn't make much difference if I put her in them when he takes her.

*chuck a blanket over her.