to be pissed off and a bit worried?

[Prozacbear]

DP called at 9pm or so saying his phone is almost out of battery, but he'll be back at midnight or so; having a boring evening (work do) so hopefully before. I can be a stickler for timescales so said, "Of course, no worries, I have some work to do tonight so will be occupied until midnight or so." Trying to be laid back.

It's now almost 3am. I can't get through to him (battery) or any work colleagues. He's not great at timings but this seems silly.

I am worried he's either dead (good excuse) or has decided to go out late (fine but use a work colleague's phone - most have one of my numbers - to leave a message).

I am pissed off. This isn't fair. I don't get it. I feel teary and stressed and can't sleep. I've drunk pretty much a bottle of wine to keep awake. AIBU?

He has form for being late but its almost three hours. He's usually good (great!) at phoning and explaining why he's late etc. I want to shout at him.

Bear in mind this is under the influence of so I may BU.

I would not worry. But be very cross with him tmw re phone and not calling. But I really, really, wouldn't worry. He'll turn up, with a story. Soon. Don't worry.

I can see why you feeling stressed as he is nearly 3 hours late but I also think that the has made you a little bit U as you already know he's shite with time keeping, have a instead and go to bed, hope he comes back soon.

I'd be annoyed too, its courtesy and not that difficult to borrow a mates phone and call. Get some sleep and yell at him in the morning

Thanks Faberge, I hope he's back soon. If it's within the next half-hour his story is fine and I'll have a tipsy rant and go to bed.

I just wish he'd used a colleague's phone to send a text or something. When he's (very) drunk he's not really compos mentis.

I really have to sleep so I can get DS up and go to work in the morning.

Cross posted ... yes you're right. I just know if he's this late he's probably got drunk and is in a club.

I will go to sleep, hopefully, in half an hour. Just bloody irritated. He always gives times and then is an hour late, it's tiresome.

I hope he's back safe and sound now Prozac.

He'll say he didn't call to let you know because he didn't want to wake you up. Perfectly valid. He isn't to know you are pissed up and pissed off. Bit of a waste of an evening tbh. You'd have been better off asleep.

I expect you will get a 'But I told you my phone was running out of battery'

'Oh in my drunken state I didn't think of that '

I hope you are sleeping now and he's not burried under the patio!

This would piss me right off. Mainly as I'd struggle to sleep properly myself with this on my mind. YANBU.

He was probably expecting OP to be asleep and completely oblivious to the fact that he was still out, and didnt want to call in case he woke her up.

Not unreasonable to be annoyed and worried. Very unreasonable to drink wine to keep awake.

Hope he got back OK.

The correct approach was: he should have said (and, for the avoidance of doubt, you should have accepted it when he said it) "I'll be back later, don't wait up for me."

Problem solved avoided.