to be a bit hurt? / feel a tad excluded? (please be kind if I am :p)

[JesuslovesmethisIknow]

Basically......

I am at uni and was asked to be involved in a piece of work to discuss a current affair that has exploded nationally and potentially will affect how the course I am on is run.

There are 5 of us students in the group.

I said yes straight away (as was interested) but when the first meeting was arranged I was on holiday (it was the Easter hols) - I explained that I was disappointed and gave my apologies. These were noted.

The second meeting was then arranged for the very first day I was sent out on a new placement by the uni - I explained this quandary straight away and asked if they wanted to contact the placement and sanction me some time off but they said no, placement comes first (you need a certain amount of hours)... again, apologies noted.

So, today was the third meeting... of the 5 students and the person leading the piece of work. I was able to attend as it was my only day off placement.

Through the process, I have been sending in my work via email / my contributions which has taken me quite a bit of time. Prior to today, I double checked that it was still relevant that I should come and I was told, yes please.

ANYWAY.... we as a 'group' have to present at a conference in August, and the lecturer said today that the students that have managed to attend at least two of the meetings will have accommodation provided. She then named them by name. By default, it was clear that this meant I would not have accommodation provided - only me out of 5 participants. It is a two day conference with a dinner the first night and then accommodation - followed by the conference the next day. I will need to find some myself, away from the group as a hotel was mentioned and that is defo out of my range.

I feel a bit naffed off -am I being unreasonable to?

I am very involved in the uni and help with tons of stuff so it is not like I am a consistent poor attender to commitments that I make. I work with this lecturer arranging this 'group' a lot and give up my spare time for quite a few projects.

Please be kind, I may be being an idiot I know

Maybe the uni are just worried that they will fork out for accommodation that you won't end up using because something might come up?

good for you again. Really glad you have stood up for yourself and are feeling good about it.

thanks.

Nah, I am on tons of committees on the undergrad course - known to be committed and diligent I reckon as keep getting invited back. Am also class rep etc.

What I personally feel is that this woman is not a huge fan of mine, but wants my work input as I am (without boasting atall as who actually cares) a grade A disabled student to boot. I feel like I am quite a good poster girl for the 'school' and their endevours

However, in this instance I am not willing to be treated differently - I am either in the team and treated the same, or not willing to play ball.

All very nicely put of course

Cant actually believe I said thank you but no thank you and stated my reasoning. Feel incredibly brave, like I have somehow taken on a bully.

Ps. I DO feel a bit like a biatch but I am sodding tired of being a 'yes' girl and would only be fuming anyway internally so whats the point of that?!

Lets hope she doesn't have to mark any of my essays

Quite right too. Well done.

Good on you. There were a couple of things when I was at uni which I rolled over on as I don't like conflict and felt powerless. They bother me 15 years later! Good on you for standing your ground, particularly as you sensed you were being used. So chuffed for you.

Thanks guys.

I am growing in confidence in standing up for myself... only decades late