To give a bit of backstory, my Mum has a fully paid off house, but she left it to move in with her partner a few years ago. She intended to sort it and rent it out, but years wet by and it sat empty, slowly getting in worse and worse shape. When I fell pregnant me and DP asked if we could rent it from her, since we couldn't normally afford a house round here and it was just costing her money. We did, with the agreement we'd help her sort it and redecorate etc. But with the plan to get most things done before the baby arrived.
Well DD has been here for 4 months and almost nothing has been done. While it's annoying, we just about have enough space between our stuff and mums to live comfortably. One of the big issues is, she refuses to let us touch, let alone sort her things for her. But also refuses to come sort them herself.
This has all come to head this weekend, when I told her we had to get the box room sorted that week, because DD has outgrown her Moses basket and the cot bed won't fit in our bedroom. I told her all that needed doing straight away was moving the bed into the spare room. That we'd move it there for her and we'd find a convenient time to sort the other bits in their together. For some reason this is absolutely unacceptable. To the point she bought a travel cot for our bedroom for her. She had mentioned it before and I said that we don't know if it would fit and we'd have to buy a new mattress and bedding etc. We really can't afford it. But Sunday night she calls me telling me she got one with a used mattress. I thanked her but explained about why we couldn't use a second hand mattress again and she went mental. Shouting about how angry she was with me and how I should just suck it up.
Sorry this is so long, but I need to clear this up. She's BU right? But at the same time am I being at all U too? I need to be clear next time I see her.