AIBU?
... To tell my neighbours?
WhoNickedMyName · 16/06/2013 12:47
We've lived in our house for 4 years and in all the time we've lived here I go outside to smoke, round the side of the house where my DH has built me a little smoking shelter 
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Last week, during that little burst of lovely weather, my neighbour knocked to ask me to stop smoking round the side of the house, as their conservatory and back bedroom smelled strongly of cigarettes. I was a bit 
that this had never been a problem before, and smoke from my 3 cigarettes a day was floating across our two gardens (there is probably about 20 metres between our houses) and making its way into their house but agreed that unless it was raining, I'd go to the bottom of our garden for a cigarette in future.
I've just been hanging washing out. The neighbours car isn't there so I presume they're out somewhere. As I walked down the side of my house I could see their daughter through the gaps in the fence, standing at the side of their house, puffing away. She is about 12/13 years old. Their conservatory windows are open. She is no more than a couple of metres away. This is clearly what's causing their house to smell.
Whilst I don't want to drop her in it, I don't want my neighbours to think I've ignored their request, and if it were my DS I'd want to know.
Would you tell them?
NatashaBee · 16/06/2013 12:52
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ihearsounds · 16/06/2013 13:07
Take a picture. THey won't believe you. They will think you are just making excuses because you want to use your shelter and the weather is rotten again. Their dd will deny it. She will give them the puppy dog eyes. She will put on the water works. She will promise and swear dearly that she doesn't smoke and never has done. She will tell them her friends smoke, hence they smell smoke on her.
WhoNickedMyName · 16/06/2013 13:19
I still think its cheeky they were telling you where to smoke.
I dunno, they're pretty good neighbours, our paths don't cross all that much and I always take the view that if it's got to the point where someone is complaining, then it's usually about something that's really bothering them. I did wonder whether they'd put up with it for 4 years and if so, why not say something sooner.
I'm surprised too that they can't smell it on their daughter. DH and DS can't stand the smell which is why I go round the side of our house that has no windows. As soon as I come in I wash my hands, spray deodourant all over myself and brush my teeth - and they still sometimes complain that I smell.
I'll keep popping out to see if I can see her smoking again and try and get a photo but tbh I can't be arsed being on 'smoke watch' for days . I'm going to knock and tell them as soon as they get back today and if they don't believe me then hey ho.
Flossyfloof · 16/06/2013 13:41
I don't think you should take a picture - it could land you in some trouble I think. I wouldn't mention it - they won't thank you for it and will blame you for mentioning it. Surely they will find out soon enough? I do think they were bloody cheeky though and stupid - how could your smoke invade house and how can they not smell it on their daughter?
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