AIBU?
Who is BU?
sqigglywiggle · 15/06/2013 23:39
i was just mentioning to DH something me and DD did and he said "its nice to know you can be girly sometimes". I was a little confused and said that I always wear make up do hair etc so why wasnt I girly?
He refused to discuss and when I pressed stormed off and went to bed as apparently "you always do this"
Deep breaths - Im going to be in trouble tomorrow now.
AgentZigzag · 15/06/2013 23:46
Ooo blimey, there must be a lot going on for him to storm off and not even want to talk about it.
If he's not prepared to discuss it then why fucking bring it up??
And why lay a downer on you before stalking off to bed?
But to be fair, I can see how what you said could be taken as a bit of a starter for ten, like you were picking apart something he just said casually and turned it round to be him criticizing you.
Could you have done that a bit? Either because you've got a low self esteem, or you interpret the things he says through a shitty lens?
If you think you'll have trouble tomorrow, is he a sulker/punisher? How long will it go on for?
ThisIsMummyPig · 15/06/2013 23:51
Lots of women do their hair and wear make up, and then go out to do sensible careers - business, A&E whatever - you wouldn't be 'girly' in those settings.
I wonder if you there is confusion with 'girly' and unfeminine.
Maybe it was a comment on the activities you do with your DD - were you doing something different with her? I recently took DD1 shopping for the first time, we play together nicely most of the time, but we would class shopping as a 'girly' activity, whereas playing in the park isn't
sqigglywiggle · 15/06/2013 23:55
Hes always saying he wants to divorce me and that he only built the loft extension so he had a place to get away from me (not that he uses it). He says horrible stuff all the time but cant stand getting called on it or taking any himself. He has the worlds worst memory for stuff and will make stuff up as he thinks it was which really annoys me as i have a completely date /time type memory and can prove with photos and stuff but he will still belittle me.
RinseAndRepeat · 15/06/2013 23:59
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AgentZigzag · 16/06/2013 00:02
Me and DH have similar memories, his is the shit one 
But he'd never try to belittle/humiliate/hurt/game play with me, and there's no way I could stand living with someone who I knew thought so little of me to do that.
It's spiteful and petty, and you have to wonder about a person who gets off on needling someone they're supposed to love.
Do you go ballistic when he pulls this kind of shite?
RinseAndRepeat · 16/06/2013 00:16
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AgentZigzag · 16/06/2013 00:19
Where would you normally go?
I'd go to the spare room myself, just because I wouldn't want any misunderstandings, with him thinking I was OK being treated like shit.
Did he flounce a bit when he went out of the room squiggly?
Was there a dramatic flourish in getting up, maybe a door slam, stamp noisily up the stairs?
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