To ask wwyd about complicated childcare?

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I know this isn't really aibu but posting here for traffic. I have a 15 month old who hates being away from me and is impossible to leave anywhere. She did have a time of being a bit better but is going through a major clingy stage which seems to be going on and on.

I have to start a job a 3 hour drive away soon and will only be doing 3 hours work once I get there, I'm doing this job for 3 months. So it's 6 hours in car and 3 hours at work. I just can't imagine her doing ok at nursery for a full day but I have booked a space for her at a lovely nursery my eldest goes to in the hopes I could get her in there. I have considered taking her with me and getting a nanny to sit in car with us and mind her when I'm at work for the 3 hours at the nearby park and playrooms. I thought she might sleep in car on way there in her late morning nap and then I could give her dinner at 6 there and put her in pjs and she'd sleep on way home as if in bed. I think this could be workable but seems bloody ridiculous frankly. I don't have anyone who can help.

Does anyone have any ideas? Without being flash the job is really well paid so I don't mind how expensive the solution. Help!

You will be surprised! They will have met lots and lots of babies like yours before, and be very adept at settling them in.

I don't think it appropriate to have her in a car for 6 hours a day.

I'm afraid I'm old school, it would be in the nursery, off to work, forget about her for 9 hours and pick her up. No child cries for 9 hours solid.

Book her into a nursery near your new job?

Why could the nanny not look after her at home? Three hours with no "base" apart from a car would be hard going.

But, she will be fine at nursery and its only six months.

ignore me....

You could employ the nanny to look after her at your home. Makes much more sense than 6 hours in a car.

I think six hours in a car and three hours outdoors would be a pretty miserable day for a tot. Nursery/nanny at home would be better.

Honestly she'll get used to nursery
She'll be fine

It may take a bit of time but she will settle in nursery. I woerked in a private nursery for 4 years and never once did we have a child that settled however long it took! You obviously trust the staff if you already have a child there and they will have dealt with separation anxiety numerous times. Take the place.
I seriously doubt you will find a nanny willing to look after a child while being based in a car anyway.

She'll be fine at nursery. Her brother is there. She'll settle eventually.

No way would I consider putting her in the car for 6 hours not counting delays a day! (I can't envisage any circumstance where I'd do that to myself, tbh).
You'd be amazed how well children settle in Nursery - the staff will be used to it and you can do some extended 'settling in' time if you want to.