To not change contact 1.5 hours before pick up time.

[KirstieAllsop]

Ex was due to pick DS up at 4pm for an overnight visit. This has been arranged since last time he had DS (1.5 weeks ago).
He has just rang asking if he could not have DS overnight because he wanted a night out. He was also out last night.
He is making out that I am being unreasonable for saying no. Regardless, he's still not coming to pick him up.
He's being a twat, isn't he?

Yes he is being a prize winning twat

Thank you. He's got a way of making me think I'm the one that's being unfair.

So he wasn't so much asking as telling. What a prat. I'd say tit for tat except that would be unfair on your son and you, unlike your ex, prioritise his needs. Does this happen often?

He is a dick, why do people need to be so Damn selfish!

your poor ds what pond life doesn't want to see their own fucking children and lets them down an hour and a half before they are due to visit....

Op I don't know how old your ds is but when this has happened to my dd all I have said is ok well my gain as I love spending time with you - right now lets go and do something really nice and we go to the park for an play on the swings and an ice cream then get a movie on the tv and snuggle up.

It pretty much was just telling, under the pretence of asking. Apparently my 'attitude' is what makes things difficult. He's often messing around contact times. I'm tempted to tell him he can take me to court, but I know it wouldn't be the best thing.
He knows I'm not out tonight as I'm babysitting another child.

ivy it is definitely my gain, no chance of the park though as the skies have just opened. May get the paints out for him. DS is nearly 2.

it is your gain but really what a twatt

I would set out the weekends and leave it at that , no swapping no changing and if he rings and says he can't make it - say great we can go out and have a lovely time and then utter not another word.