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Would comments like this put you off a person?

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CrapBag · 15/06/2013 14:14

Its someone I know well (for about 10 years) and have always got on well with. However little comments are making me think that they are actually a bit of an 'intelligence snob.'

I have no idea if that is a thing, but it fits. Grin

This person is well educated and is in a fairly good career. Not everyone I know is in the same boat though and most have jobs (rather than careers) and are not perceived to be overly intelligent (this is NOT my view or way of thinking at all).

The odd little comment like "well x is a bit thick isn't he" and when talking about what an adverb was and I was the only person who knew it (intelligence snob was not there at this time) the response was "why doesn't that surprise me" in quite a sneery tone.

Also talking about a relative who had got a job recently. I was really pleased for him and telling this person about it. It is a job that many people have degrees for but it is becoming increasingly common for people who don't have degrees to get this type of job and be paid far less for it, there is a small difference to the type of duties included but not much. I was saying about this basically and the person I know felt that it was terrible for my relative to get this type of job when "people study for years to do that, then others just walk in"

I don't really like this attitude. Its like this person thinks they are a bit better than the rest because they are more intelligent. I go for a person rather than what their IQ is tbh.

Would you want to spend time with a person who has these sorts of views?

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fuzzypicklehead · 15/06/2013 14:19

As a rule, I don't like spending time with people who go out of their way to sneer at others, regardless of the reason. It's just not fun to listen to someone bitching or picking out the flaws in other people.

Thumbwitch · 15/06/2013 14:20

You're not doing too well with your friends at the moment, CrapBag! I'd have a clear out and lose the dickheads (which this one sounds like). :)

thebody · 15/06/2013 14:23

I don't mix with nasty twats. Suggest you don't either.

Friend also sounds jealous tbh not an overly intelligent emotion.

CrapBag · 15/06/2013 14:24

Ha ha, I know I am on a roll today, haven't been on here for a while and have been saving them up. Grin

Actually 2 threads are about the same person and the other is moving far away and I won't see her again anyway. No great loss there.

I am cultivating the more lasting friendships at the moment. I do actually have some. Grin

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Thumbwitch · 15/06/2013 14:27

Grin - pleased to hear it!

AmadeusRocks · 15/06/2013 14:33

Your friend sounds like a nob - get rid!

Onesleeptillwembley · 15/06/2013 14:33

Actually they sound quite insecure. Pity them.

Fakebook · 15/06/2013 14:37

When I approached my 30th birthday I made a conscious effort to cut out people who backbite and bitch about others all the time. I decided to only meet people who make me happy and who make me feel good after a get together rather than drained and shit.

I am a much happier person for it.

Cut her out. These type of people will say shit about you behind your back too. Sad pathetic idiots.

SusuwatariToes · 15/06/2013 14:40

If she was really as intelligent as she thinks she would realise that intelligence comes in many different forms. It's not all just about "book smarts".

CrapBag · 15/06/2013 14:53

Good point. The person who is considered thick has an absolute heart of gold and would do anything for anyone. I know what type of person I prefer.

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tungthai · 15/06/2013 14:56

There are lots of intelligence snobs on MN.

HolidayArmadillo · 15/06/2013 15:02

I'm a bit of an intelligence snob. However it's mainly people who think acting thick is cute or endearing. So I'm very very scathing about them.

Thumbwitch · 15/06/2013 15:38

I tend to agree with you on that, HolidayArmadillo! I used to work with a bunch of girls who "played thick" because they thought showing any sign of intelligence made them less attractive to the opposite sex. One even invented a breathy lisp! It used to disappear when she'd had a drink, her normal accent came out then.
It was all "oo, I don't vote, I don't understand politics, it's all soooo boooooring" and "Oo I can't do cryptic crosswords, they're far too complicated for little ol' me". What was worse though was when one of them did accidentally display some intelligence and the rest jumped on her and cut her down! Shock

ENormaSnob · 15/06/2013 16:16

Some people are just nasty twats.

I knpw a fair few people of lower academic abilities, all of them great people and excellent at other things.

Pretty sure the world would be a worse place if we were all academic.

cortado · 15/06/2013 16:26

In general people who put others down only to make themselves feel better are not good to have as friends.

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