To think that "At least I'm being honest"

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does not put you in any better light when you're a plank?

This is what fil saidwhen he described one of the guests at a dinner party he went to last night.

"Very working class which I found harder to deal with than the fact he's gay."

I would replace the word honest with twat actually. You could say that to him.

YANBU.

Some people think that, "I'm only being honest" gives them the green light to say any shitty thing they feel like.

I really hope he doesn't convey this kind of information to my dcs.

What a bizarre thing to say!

Honestly, I wouldn't take him seriously, he's clearly dafter than Basil Brush. Although if he genuinely thinks this is a reasonable way to talk about people I can see it must be very frustrating.

'At least I'm being honest' simply means 'I'm a rude cunt'.

Nope. I called him on it. Threw up my hands in mock horror etc. But he carries on, saying he is dreadful etc.

really hope he doesn't convey this kind of information to my dcs.

My dad is a twat very honest too the dds now just tut at him and roll their eyes they know he is talking rubbish

Yeah...dreadful twat

I hate that.

Like when people say 'it's just banter' wankerish piss taking or 'no offense but i'm about to offend you but don't be offended

'At least I'm being honest'

'I'm just saying it as I see it'

Both translate as ' I'll say what I like and I don't care about anybody else'

Twattish.

In much the same vein as 'no offence but.....' . When my dad starts a conversation with 'I'm not racist but....' I know to switch off completely. Is this a generational thing do you think?

Oops...See. It made my lines cack up I was so annoyed

Quick, get the PC police!

Is this a generational thing do you think?

I think so, but I know my dad has toned it down over the years the things i heard him say growing up were mind blowing but now he says oh I can't say that these days can I which translates too these PC folk get on my wick and i cant say what i want and be honest

Yanbu. I really hate it when people say rude and horrible things, then applaud themselves for their 'honesty'

It's just rudeness.

It could be a generational thing.

My nan says things like "he's a bit poofy" which is offensive anyway but it never actually has any relevance to anything. My GPs also insists on saying "that coloured chap" even though I have told them that that is actually considered a racist term and there is nothing wrong with saying black.

I do put it down to their generation and don't take any notice of it.

DD1 sometimes has no filter and I do need to keep her in check she blurts things out (usually nasty things to her sister) and thjen she wraps it up as honestly

Don't forget "I'm not being funny but ..."

IME 'I was just being honest' is a faux wide-eyed excuse for the rudest, cuntiest and most shit stirring behaviour possible.
as for 'i am not being funny but ....' those people should interupted with 'damn right u are not funny at all'

My dad would be just the same. I call him on it now, I know he's a different generation but it's no excuse for rudeness, and I particularly don't appreciate him saying ignorant things in front of my teens. They are well aware what he's like though, and don't take him seriously.

In a similar vein, my mother has a habit of starting off a conversation with: "I hope you don't mind me saying this, but..." knowing perfectly well that whatever she is about to say will raise my hackles. She persists in doing it though.

Re: the generation thing. I wish it were, because at least that way we could be fairly sure it would disappear. However, one Dad (mid twenties) said this to me at school earlier this week, talking about his 8 month old son and how his partner treats him.

"She's turning him into a little poof".

Then started laughing. He was unhappy that she makes a fuss if the baby (yes, BABY) hurts himself. Needs toughening up, apparently, or he may turn out as a gay!

I'm just amazed the dh is relatively untwatty given his parents.

However if I ever hear fil saying such stuff around the dcs, I shall be shutting him up pronto.

I asked him why he found the guest hard to deal with. Did he think he was better than him? "I'm just middle class," was his response. He is obsessed with class. It's pathetic. And I was so irritated with having a moron to stay for the whole weekend. And it's raining so I can't get everyone outside.

A former friend of mine once made a homophobic comment about another friend and when met with my face gave the "at least I'm being honest" reply.

I was so fucking furious so I smiled and said, "you know what I appreciate your honesty, in fact I think it's about time I started being a bit more like you"

Me "I hope you don't mind my honesty when I say I think you a narrow minded, ignorant fucking moron"

LOVE it amadeus :)

I don't think it is necessarily a generational thing. My 60 something Londoner in-laws with a mixed race granddaughter are far far more racist and homophobic than my 80 year old granny who grew up in the Irish countryside where everyone was lilywhite and gay people Did Not Happen.