My friend has a DD who is 7, the same age as one of my DDs. When her DD was a baby, she split with her DD's dad. The main reasons were he had cheated on her, and they also argued a lot.
Over the years, my friend has been persistently awkward about allowing him contact. He seems like a good father, who loves his DD, and he's always reliable about picking her up. But because he cheated on her, my friend still bears a grudge against him, and will let him see her several times, then will stop contact again, just because she can. This results in her being taken back to court by her DD's father. Then the whole cycle starts again. They go to court, she allows him to see her several times, then just stops. She also claims her DD hates seeing him but whenever she says it in front of her DD, her DD says that she likes going there and that she wants to go again.
Anyway, all our mutual friends are always very supportive to my friend, and I have always been there for her, but I'm beginning to get annoyed with the way she behaves about allowing her ex contact. She is moaning on her Facebook status this morning about what an arsehole is as he is threatening to take her back to court, and all our mutuals are replying with what a total arse he is and what a bastard and he needs to leave well alone and stop causing her stress. But I can't help thinking that she is bringing it all on herself.
Her DD is only supposed to go there every other weekend for one day and one night, so it's not like there is meant to be loads of contact, and she moans as she has no time to herself as a single mum. I can't understand why she is still using something that happened years ago as a weapon against him and why she is doing it to her DD. And yes, I know I'm not being a very good friend, but I have been in the past to her, I just don't feel I can support her in this so I am going to keep my mouth shut.