Is it really unreasonable, should I feel guilty?

[Cantdoanymore]

Long time lurker, occasional poster, name changed.
I stay in bed - all day. I stay wake all night, mainly on the computer.
I don't cook, clean or shop, my husband does all those things.
I have extremely high levels of anxiety and exhaustion, meaning that if I do get up, go out or do anything I usually sleep for 15 hours after.
I used to work, and worked hard. My family are grown and there is just oh and me.
Somedays I feed the cat, have a shower and that's all I can manage.
Many days I don't leave my bed, except to stagger to the toilet.
No one else I know is like this.

you dont sound very well, have you seen a doctor? you are not unreasonable

You are obviously unwell, are you getting any treatment / help?

Sounds like depression. That's what I was like when it first kicked in. You need to see your GP for help.

No one I know is either. My first guess was you were sick. Then I read you spend all night awake on a computer. How much of what you feel is by spending all your RL in a virtual one?

You genuinely could be depressed. How long have you lived like this? How did it start? How's your oh? Have you seen your GP?

What have you done about it and how long has it been going on? You sound like you need help from a medical professional. If you havent sought help then yes you should feel a bit guilty

Yes you should feel guilty if you are not seeking any help - why should everything fall on your husband?

I do get help. I have a psychiatrist and a community nurse who visits.
I take my medication. I am having tests for m.e / c.f.s.

I am much less anxious when I am awake all night and sleep during the day.
I have had periods of hideous depression, but mainly I feel exhausted and numb now.
Oh says he loves me, never complains, brings me cups of tea and flowers.
We don't have much of a life tho. I do try to do things, I just end up getting overwrought by even the smallest thing

yu need to let yourself get better, baby steps. are your meds helping with the anxiety or making it worse, you need to keep going to the docs stuff obviously isnt working. Anxiety is awful, my mum suffers very badly and I have the odd bout and it is crippling, frightening, I really feel for you. can you try and change your body clock around 10 or 20 mins at a time, so go to bed at 6.50am rather than 7 (an example I have no idea what time you go to bed) and move it each day.
You dont need to feel guilty you need to feel better :)

also being online all the time and having little interaction with rl can give you a very wonky view of reality so you think bad things re likely to happen out there in the real world when they are in actual fact very unlikely, and will be making your anxiety ten time worse.

Are they testing your thyroid? I hope so. Take care.

I was the same for many years. Took anti-depressants by the bucket load, saw numerous psychologists and had various interventions. It took 20 years to find out that the anxiety was down to autism and sleeping all day was down to fluctations in blood sugar caused by not eating regularly enough.

It's a horrible way to live and you shouldn't feel guilty.