Pah, a rare night out has been ruined :(

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Just got in from an nas fundraiser, all went well until waiting for a taxi outside a lad pointed at me and said to his mate 'there's a fat bird for ya' then pulled him over.

It's really fucked me off, it's because of people like that I wouldn't go onto pubs with my friends.

Oh and I won a cake, the irony of a fat bird on a diet winning a cake.

Wankers.

This has happened to me too a few times and fuck it hurts. But really really screw the absolute bloody bastards. In fact I think whatever your body shape it happens in one variant or another to most.

I bet you looked sizzling hot (that is why they noticed you) but their attraction to you challenged their idea of a pretty girl looking like a porn star and as a result they hammered you. Whatever they are total total arses, I don't understand such casual cruelty. But remember you won't hear the comments from all the men who thought you looked totally fit because unless they are uber confident or drunk they never voice them.

These half-formed, uninteresting, unoriginal, inexperienced boys are not real men but just boring tossers.

start sharpening your tongue with a few put downs. The more public the space the better as you can really show them up & get as many people to laugh at them as possible.

I was running once and a couple of teenagers shouted off the top of the bus "keep running, you're fat" at me. It was years ago and I still remember it and cringe. People are bastards. As others have said, you can and have lost weight. he will be a tosser forever, but am on your behalf x

Do you have a DD? Presumably if someone had said that sort of thing to her you'd tell her the truth - it was all about his inadequacies and not hers.
What sort of night out has a cake to win though?

As a male, I shrivel inside at the way my fellow "men" treat women. He was probably only out to buy a new wank-sock. I notice he was with his male mate. Could it be possible he can't find a girlfriend because he is a pathetic, rude, misogynist knob?

That's true actually Please - I think people like that only comment on things they don't understand. It's like a threat to their lazy, self absorbed, tiny brains.

Eh? A person who is a bit overweight yet strangely, I find her attractive. That cannot be right.

Oi mate. backup please. Look, she's pretty, and overweight, and what's up with that?

Do you see what I mean? If you were fat, ugly, unattractive and horrible they wouldn't have said a thing because it would have fitted their pre conceived ideas. I think I can safely say similar stuff has happened to most of us at some point, simply for not being the thing they expect.

I used to get it for wearing clothes that were not short and revealing
and for being too thin
and for not wearing make up

you name it
Ignore them. They are simply confused.

Unmumsnetty hugs, OP. He sounds an utter smegwrangler and he might have been a "young trendy" type but he was probably only out with his mate because no right thinking woman would touch a nobber like him with somebody else's bargepole. Doesn't stop it smarting though.

When I was younger a bloke once said "how come you've got a double chin at your age?" It was one of the rare occasions I wasn't just struck dumb with humiliation and I actually managed to say "I spend so much time biting my tongue not to respond to ignorant wankers like you, it's left me with one."

The irony is I didn't even have a double chin! I do have odd jaw conformation though.

OP, I'm sure you're utterly gorgeous but it might be useful to have a "standard" insult at the ready. If you ever get an undeserved "fat" comment again, say something like "Yeah, I have to eat a cake every time I meet a stupid arsehole. I'll need a whole bag of doughnuts after meeting you...you're special ".

I do like the stock retort 'I can lose weight but you'll always be stuck with that ugly face' :o

People can be bastards, he obviously needs to put other people down to make himself feel better for being an inadequate little twat

I got called a 'fat bitch' whilst I was walking through town once by a drunken idiot walking in the other direction. His friend had the grace to look embarrassed. I felt like I'd been slapped in the face and burst into tears soon after. I feel your pain.

I'm sorry op.
I'm tall, in my boots on a night out I'm taller than a lot of the blokes and I'm ok but no supermodel. I think it's better now cos so many women wear those massive stilettos, but the amount of nasty things I've had shouted at me from blokes. Does usually mean that the blokes that I ended up with were very secure laid back types-which is good I suppose!

Im 4ft 11" and on nights out have been slagged off - called a dwarf, Jimmy Krankie, Oompa Lumpa, Munchkin, "just the right height for a blow job etc". generally some men are utter knob heads on a night out and seem to leave their brains at home.
I just laugh back at them, roll my eyes and call them a twat.

Really hope you've woken up in a good mood & can laugh at their idiotic comments (& the fact they're prob got the hangover from hell).

I used to be overweight (size 18) & once a pissed up guy shouted to my ex-H "how could you shag her?". He said "very easily cos she's hot. Who are you snagging tonight? Your hand!". Worked a treat :-)

Similar happened to me years ago, just chatting to some random guy while I waited for a friend outside a bar and suddenly his friend comes running up shouting' urgh what are you doing with that fat thing?!'. I actually wanted to curl up and die, like you I'd recently lost weight (gone from 14 to 10-12) and was feeling good about myself for once but that ruined it, it still upsets me and wish I'd had the confidence to tell him to fuck off. Guy in question was no looker and barely came up to my armpits, makes me so angry that women's looks are public property to be commented on. Well done on your weightloss, don't let the pathetic moron get you down.

You never know op, he might turn up on C4's Embarrassing Bodies for having a teeny tiny cock hole instead of an actual penis. Or he'll have worms. You'll have a mega LOL then.

Don't feel bad because he's the kind of cockrot who would probably think anything over a size 8 is fat and will never see a real pair of tits or ever get laid. You've done well losing weight and just carry on as you are!

I remember when I was about full term with my DS1 and had gone to get some shopping. There was a guy I had seen park like an utter cock (diagonally across two spaces in a busy car park) next to my car as I was heading across the car park. He and his friend had got out and were walking towards me when he said something about me being a "fat hog"....

MISTAKE!

Before I left, and I KNOW, this is wrong and I'm not proud*, because i could have been caught, but I scraped the trolley all the way up the side of his car from the head lights to the tail lights leaving massive scratches in the paintwork of his nice shiny twatmobile.

I did lol all the way home.

*cough cough cough

Oh.

What a cuntychops.

BUT...
You are infinatley, endlessly, mindnumbingly 100% CERTAINLY cooler than him. Purely for the spotectomy pic on your profile.

I now solemly declare that I shall love you forever.

smegwrangler

I'm sorry he was a dick.

Congrats on the weightloss .

Oh yeah and then there was the time I was a student and a bloke eating a pizza in a taxi rank called me fat. So I managed to swoop my arm underneath his pizza box and do a proper full on custard pie splat and rub in his face to the cheer of everyone else in the taxi rank. Then I snogged a bloke who looked just like Damon Albarn

Brilliant SameulWests :-)

Very jealous of you snogging a Damon lookalike!

I practice these in my head.

I can loose weight you will always to be a short arsed cunt/ ugly/ thick etc etc .

Fuck don't shout I can smell your bad breath from here

Oh look the gobby shite is going home on his own/ with his boyfriends again. ( I'm not homophobic but that type of person usually is)

I have got a husband and kids what have you got ? you've got a wank sock. Ha ha ha

I wouldn't shout too loud you don't want everyone to notice you are an cockless wonder

You inadequate twat I'd be bothered if your opinion counted.

I can turn into a bit of fishwife every so often.
I am quite refined actually honest.

Thanks ladies, I couldn't even muster up my favourite response ' insulting me won't make your cock grow you twat ' but just stood there doing a goldfish impression.

stealth It was a fundraiser, hence me winning a cake.

Monkeyface That there zit brewed for 8 yrs, I was summoned especially to squeeze the bugger and it stank. Was Beautiful tho.

Ignore the bastard, he obviously had severe issues about himself (likely small cock and brain syndrome) and wanted to make himself feel good. You get shitty people like that, just nasty. My friend has acne scars and while down the pub once a bunch of women started laughing and taunting her about her skin-just cruel and just because they wanted something to feel good about.

Not that I think you have to ignore them, more try to put the comments out of your mind now.

'Fat' is such a bloody boring, ubiquitous insult. It doesn't matter what size you are, some men just reach for the nearest hurtful word (see also bitch. It helps the hard of thinking that they are also just one syllable).
I once got called fat over email by a guy who had never seen me.
It means nothing OP, other than the boys in question have a lower vocabulary than your average potato.

A similar situation happened me in Mc Donalds when I was queuing for a drink. Drunk twat turns around and says to his mate "I don't know what the fuck she's doing here, she can't be fuckin hungry" and laughed their heads off. I left. It's been about seven years now and the comment still stings. And I wouldn't mind but I was the thinnest I've ever been.

He was a dick. The gobshite that insulted you was a dick. It's hard to forget a mean comment but it's fun dreaming up ways to torture the assholes who make them.

Some people are nasty bastards.