to think that

[odyssey]

After browsing this website for a while, I have come to the conclusion that I must live on a different planet, never have I come across so many people so narrow minded and judgemental.

Every one is so quick to judge and comment on issues that, they clearly have no idea or have ever experience.

And for crying racism, unless you have experiance this, not everything is racist and some things are actually not racist. I do actually know the difference and have been on the receiving end.

Why do people think its ok to verbally attack some one for their point of view, is this not a country that has freedom of speech and that everyone is entitled to have opinion, and not every one needs to agree with it.

So do I live on a different planet, or has the world gone mad because as a working mother of lots of children. I worry for the next generation, that don't seem to have minds of there own and follow aimlessly what they have been told to do.

Though I agree that there are cases when a person needs to be directed in the right direction, it could always be done in a way that is worded nicely and for them nopt to be attacked.

So I don't really care if you agree or not, I am old enough not to actually care and actually have a life that does not revolve around the internet.

But tonight, after having a glass or two of some thing nice. I decided that I would voice my opinion. Feel free to add yours, but to whether I decide to post or even look again, I haven't decided lol

Though one thing for all you who are either ex smokers or have an opinion on people who smoke WIND YOUR NECKS IN, unless they smoke in cars with their children or in the house. Does it actually make a difference if the childs see's you smoke, my children are all against smoking and don't want to, and actually the same with drinking.

How come people don't get that the more that you hide some thing and are not open and honest (age relevant) that it makes it more appealing.

Well I think for the time being that's me done.

[Sheshelob]

Um...

Are you like one of those people on buses who does drinky shouting?

[AgentZigzag]

It's OK for lurkers to stand by and not feel they're able to say anything, aggressive posting can shit some people up and get mixed with the RL experiences they've had.

Rather it's the people who've already posted on the thread just going on as though nothing's happened that make it seem OK to turn on an OP and stamp them into the ground.

With the namechanging here though I'm not sure it's really possible to bully an internet random. Doesn't it devalue RL bullying bollocks?

[Balaboosta]

The AIBU pages are a thing of beauty IMO. All of human life is here, some bullshit, some righteousness - but a whole heap of women's wisdom, common sense and genuine wish to help and share. A true slice of life - a car crash - a bun fight - a battle of ideas and a class war. For every thread that turns messy there is another one that doesn't. it shows the best of people and the worst of people.

[Amazinggg]

Things I have gleaned from your OP:

1. You smoke
2. You drink
3. You're possibly a little bit racist
4. You're quite defensive and angry for some reason I can't fathom

[AgentZigzag]

1 and 4 could be explained by 2 maybe Amaz?

I would hazard a guess at 3 as well, but it's a bit of a weak argument.

[superbadspeller]

i don't get it? Friday really is bringing them out this week

[odyssey]

real life bullying is some thing that many people need to deal with, though it is becoming more common place for bullying on the internet as well.

And in some ways I agree in regards with the name change bit, I think thats why a lot of people who post regularly name change, just in case.

It hasn't mattered what forum I have been a member of I forget to post or don't have time.

I love the internet and that it can help every one when they feel like they are on their own and need advice from faceless names, just at times I read and think how the hell did it end up from some one needing advice to be being completely slated.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

What is it exactly you're asking you're being unreasonable about?

The only significant issue I've gleaned is that you're probably a wee bit racist.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Which is quite a significant issue though perhaps not to you

[odyssey]

Definitely not racist, I actually don't care where any one comes from or colour of skin or hair or anything, I judge people on who they are and nothing else. I get where you are coming from and it all depends on what part of the country you live in, to what is actually is classed as racist and what isn't, but as I stated in my orgininal comment I had been at the receiving end of racist abuse.

Don't shout on a bus when drunk either, had a drink but not drunk and to be honest I would say the same to any one face to face. Nothing better than putting the world to rights.

And not come out of any where I am a normal ish woman, that for once decided to put my views out there on the internet.

and yes I smoke. It is a major bug bear of mine when people comment on it , I don't smoke in the house, car or actually near any one who doesn't smoke, but its my choice and for any one who says its easy to stop, it is different for every one. Though again they are entitled to their opinion as I am to mine lol

[AgentZigzag]

But can you see how the way you've decided to put your views across on the internet have come across as prickly and a bit aggressive?

Which is how some threads can go.

Someone puts something really sharp down, then others agree without being shitty, but they're all lumped together as ganging up on an OP.

It can make uncomfortable reading, but I'm sure the posters are as normal-ish as you are in RL.

[TotallyBursar]

Do you ever find people giving you funny looks when you're in the pub?

Hopefully tomorrow you can attempt a bit more of a straight line to the point and can get the debate you seem to want.

[BridgetBidet]

I wasted a whole two minutes reading this when I could have been getting advice about my yeast infection.

[Mia4]

Two things OP, aside from YABU

1. why don't you say these things on the appropriate threads they relate to? Because doing it here, generalising, it just sounds like you're being a ranty troll who is racist and has alcohol issues (the latter makes me wonder if you are the ex-h who gets bladdered in front of his kids most of the time and thinks his ex is being unreasonable to dislike it). If you do it on the actual threads perhaps you'll find people agreeing or explaining why they disagree.
   
   Doing it here seems like you don't dare do it there. Also it completely misses the point because if your complaints did have merits, the merit is lost by generalising and not specifically challenging where challenging ay be due.
   
   
2. People judge, everyone judges, even you OP, though you may well deny it or not even realise. While you may not agree with what some judge of here you likely have your own judgements offline. Online, people can be more vocal and some get a bit shitty in cases, yes, it can even go into dogpiling and nastiness (check out wank_report for other online exsamples) but others are just challenging and have a very valid point even if you don't like of agree.

[Elquota]

[Trills]

YABU to post a thread asking for people to comment on your thoughts with a title that does not in any way indicaate:
1- what the thought relate to
or
2- what the thoughts are

Just saying.

[Yonilovesboni]

Thread about a thread and a drunk OP sounds fun

[ginhag]

Thread about a thread. Or threads.

And a lol.

Why don't I have any popcorn?

[OxfordBags]

I judge anyone who would put an apostrophe in 'sees', Christalive!

[Sheshelob]

Oxford

[Heartbrokenmum73]

My brain hurts...

[Tubemole1]

The Internet is a space for free thinking folk to voice an opinion and share ideas. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. If you don't like it don't come on here.

By the way, government advisors and politicians use MN to guage what is important to parents. We get angry and defensive about all kinds of stuff but MPs rarely ask what parents feel passionate about. Although never perfect MN does gives them a fair idea. A recurring theme is Michael Gove MP and his handling of the Education changes.

There is a code of conduct on here and if anything offensive is posted, the administrators delete it quickly.

Again, if you don't like it, cancel your account and leave us be.

[ARealDame]

Amazing how the OP is judged as a racist here, even though she has said nothing racist. And other nasty insinuating comments. Ooo, I need a shower.

[ParadiseChick]

Cup of tea dear?

[1Veryhungrycaterpillar]

I'm really new to this site and posted on AIBU, I got a mixture of helpful tips and constructive criticism, yes I did have one poster who was downright abusive but then received a flurry of private messages urging me not to rise to it. There is a difference between bullying and not agreeing, most people on here balance this well but you are bound to get a variety. One of the tips I received relieved my poor bubs teething pain so I am eternally grateful!