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to think that it is unacceptable to make negative comments about the food people are eating in front of them?

26 replies

Mintyy · 14/06/2013 17:18

I'm not talking about people eating truly disgusting food like McDonalds Wink but if you are in a restaurant, say, and you choose the fish and someone else at the table doesn't like fish and therefore they have to say things like "ewwww, I hate fish, how can you eat that?"

Its rude and ill-mannered.


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TheBigJessie · 14/06/2013 17:19

Yes. I have explained this repeatedly to my husband, and he's finally got it. But I bring up past incidents, whenever I am annoyed, anyway. Wink


Moominsarehippos · 14/06/2013 17:20

Unless it is, unbeknownst to them, actually dog foor or alive, it is very rude. Or to comment if they keep a certain diet - veggie, kosher, atkins...


DryCounty79 · 14/06/2013 17:20

It is ill-mannered to act disgusted. It is ok to state plainly that you personally don't like a particular thing. But the example you gave is definitely rude.


Sirzy · 14/06/2013 17:20

Can't say it bothers me. Surely its quite normal when out for a meal to talk about each others meals and what you are having?


thebody · 14/06/2013 17:21

Yes it's very rude. My dm does this with curry. 'Ew my god how could you eat that it looks horrible' so so rude.


runningonwillpower · 14/06/2013 17:22

My mum always taught me that it is rude to comment negatively on what other people are eating.

And yes I find it rude, ill-mannered and irritating. I'm not even sure why since I didn't invent the food in question - I just do.


hurricanewyn · 14/06/2013 17:22

I've seen people do this - YANBU it's very rude. And bloody childish too


DryCounty79 · 14/06/2013 17:23

Clarification: It's ok to state plainly that you don't like a particular thing if the subject arises. But not as a random comment when someone else happens to hat that dish.


AdoraBell · 14/06/2013 17:23

Very, and To make my point To my family on holiday last year I told them the only thing wrong with my meal was their comments, which had annoyed me so much that I couldn't eat. OH's face was a picture when he realised we would paying for a meal left almost intact.



foslady · 14/06/2013 17:25

One of my pet hates - YANBU


Bunbaker · 14/06/2013 17:26

I agree. I loathe parsnips, but would never tell anyone enjoying some roast parsnip that they were eating disgusting food. If asked why I wasn't eating them I would simply say I don't like the taste of parsnip.


HumphreyCobbler · 14/06/2013 17:28

rude and childish.


Brangelina · 14/06/2013 17:29

I hate this, especially in adults who should know better. My cousin who's a fussy mare and lives off chips and pasta pulls faces when I tuck into a salad, like I'm the abnormal one.
My nieces and nephews who only eat breaded and battered shite go eww and make vomiting noises when DD eats some veg or lentils or whatever is not breaded shite and she's started getting self conscious and embarrassed about eating healthy stuff, which pisses me off no end.


phantomnamechanger · 14/06/2013 17:33

very rude indeed, no excuse for adults and even children should be taught basic manners from an early age.

friends Dd used to like salad in her sandwiches till someone at school commented on the rabbit food and was she on a diet

DS has been told he looks like he's "eating poos" about the dates he regularly takes as a snack

Thank God DDs friends are more mature, she loves hummous

OP admits to calling it diarrhoea in yoof


MamaMary · 14/06/2013 17:33

Agree. My DSis does this. Sometimes she doesn't make comments, but she will screw up her face to show you what she thinks (if for example I'm eating something unhealthy. Even as unhealthy as white toast). It's really rude. She is holier-than-thou with her supplements and kale and spinach shakes. Drives me mad. And her poor DH.


phantomnamechanger · 14/06/2013 17:34

sorry, not OP ! I meant poster, me!

sorry OP!


phantomnamechanger · 14/06/2013 17:35

MM is your sisters name Gillian and does she have an obsession with other peoples poo?


EmmelineGoulden · 14/06/2013 17:35

It's not the best thing in the world to say, but it's hardly offensive in and of itself. It's easy enough to meet the comment on an equal footing by smiling and saying "I love fish! How can you hate it?" with a laugh in your voice. There's no need to be afraid of other people's opinions unless there's something more sinister behind it.


Keepthechangeyoufilthyanimal · 14/06/2013 17:38

Yes its rude, people do it to me and I do it to my family (mum, siblings, DH and in laws) as they dont care and we are all very close and would be hard to offend eachother.

Doesn't bother me that much. However lots of different foods offend me Grin


MamaMary · 14/06/2013 17:39

Phantom no, it's not, DSis at least 20 years younger. God forbid.


Berts · 14/06/2013 18:13

Yes, rude. Also, people commenting on how many calories are in your food - or even, in one case, picking up my chocolate wrapper from the table on front of me, to read me the calorie content. And tut.


BaconKetchup · 14/06/2013 18:20

YANBU, I have seen this happen/had this happen to me a couple of times and it makes me feel really awkward.

I was eating something (not in a restaurant, just something I had brought in for lunch) and someone commented 'god what is that? It looks gross'

I can't remember exactly what it was but I know it was something fairly inoffensive, probably some soup or salad.


stargirl1701 · 14/06/2013 18:24

YANBU. It is very rude. It is ok to say you don't like to eat X but not to comment further. I hate this! I bang on about it with the children in my class Grin


LastTangoInDevonshire · 14/06/2013 18:26

I have a 'friend' who pretends to spit, then say "pah disgusting" every time vegetables are mentioned. We are vegetarians !!!!


BaconKetchup · 14/06/2013 18:31

LastTango I have encountered people like that too... I really cannot understand some people's weird horror of any type of vegetable! The mind boggles.

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