To want people to use my surname?

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

I am being flooded with sales calls at the moment. Every single one uses my first name - never my title and surname.

I think this is rude - or am I just old fashioned? They also "over-use" my name IYSWIM, in that inappropriate pally way.

Can't believe I was daft enough to give my number out, but still...

AIBU?

I agree with you. It would put me in a much better mood if they said "Ms Buttiiins". When they go "hi chocolate, how Are you chocolate, did you know you we're entitled to a discount on a new fitted kitchen, chocolate?" I really just want to tell them to fuck off.

I run a removal company, generally we use a first name. However the first time we make contact it is always mrs..... Or mr.... Etc, until communication is established.
We also only use our first names after the first meeting.

I usually tell people not to use my first name. I particularly like when they say 'Do you mind if I call you bad?, and being a very honest person I say yes.

I will never understand why people are worried about offending sales people. What do they think will happen?

Hardhaton that seems a much better way. When I meet people for the first time, it's always Mrs X, then I say "may I call you Y".

They also lie - I've just had one who said they were "getting back to me". I have never contacted them before.

Ugh. Just ring up, say "D'ya wanna loan/new windows/posh kitchen" and be done with it.

Well, I don't like to offend anyone really, they are people too. Mind you they are offending me...

But I think they probably are following their script or whatever and that was probably written by some monster-salaried manager who has never made a cold call in their life.

I've found that having a display caller facility is a godsend. Most of the calls are just not answered and are handled when the answer machine kicks in.

What I'm finding milbracat is they are phoning from what appears to be mobile numbers. I have been ignoring them, but they are calling sometimes 5 or 6 times a day. I have actually missed an important wanted call because I'm ignoring anything that I don't recognise

Store the numbers? I have a few PPI Wankers in my phone...

I guess I will have to start storing them, but there are so many! I shall label them as you have: Wanker1, Wanker2 etc. Just hope they don't ring in front of my mother

Make that Mr Wanker1 and Ms Wanker2 if you please

I like to them them actually it's lady Hop to you

Or Dame

Or the right honourable ........

Hop great idea

Yes definitely a great idea Hop!

I really hate companies calling me and using my first name without asking first (although if they did ask I'd probably say yes because my surname is quite hard to spell/pronounce).

If you realise it's a sales call soon enough then simply say you're not in when they ask for you .

I'm often to be heard denying my very existence down the phone.

I usually get "is that Mrs DPs-name". Which makes me pretty sniffy as a card carrying feminist who is not Mrs anything and doesn't have her DP's surname.

The good thing is it makes it clear from the start it's a sales call and I can just hang up.

I'd be happier to be on first name terms with everyone, Quaker-style. But I'd also be happier with no sales calls.

I hate this too. Unless I specifically invite someone to use my first name, I expect to be called 'Mrs W.' It gets on my nerves big time when some smarmy 22 year old sales person calls me Bree. Equally I would not use someone else's first name until invited, unless I am addressing a young person.
Another example of a general decline in manners in society!
Rant over... :)

YANBU! You can call me "Panda" when I invite you to, and not before. Until then it's title + surname, thenk you vair much. I must be getting old but this really gets my hackles up.

The Head of Faculty at DS' College kept calling me by my first name. I found it very patronising (which may have been the intention of course). Having been a teacher for the whole of my working life it took me several years after I retired to get used to anyone except friends and family calling me by my first name.
My mother's mother even called her friends and neighbours Mrs X and Mrs Y.