to ask Y'all what to say to gp tomorrow?

[KatyTheCleaningLady]

Forgive me: time is short and I am posting here for traffic...

I am seeing gp tomorrow in regards to my 9yo son.

He's very bright, but maybe troubled. I'd like him to be referred for something psychiatric, maybe?

Ok, he's smart, aloof, and has no friends. My brother is a textbook case of aspergers, and ds reminds me of him. I had him evaluated last year and the psychologist said not aspergers. He can hold eye contact and converse easily when he wants to. But I still think he's somewhere on that spectrum.

The problems include being somewhat cold, obsessed with watching telly, and sometimes a bit sadistic. Like, he enjoys killing bugs, throwing stones at swans, and when we go sea fishing, he delights in the part where you kill the fish. (I'm always quick to dispatch catches mercifully, and won't coarse fish as I think catch and release is cruel. So, administering the "priest" is not a problem: he just enjoys it too much. ) When I tell him it's cruel to crush snails, etc, he just scoffs that it's only a snail.

If he's angry/thwarted/told off, he will take it out on his little brothers. He'll stalk out of the room scowling, then I hear a shriek, and one of them will come in crying that he hit the.

His head teacher clearly doesn't like him. She said he has no friends, and brusquely shoves past other children. She said that his behaviour is ok because "we have nothing he wants, so he doesn't manipulate us" and said that I can go to gp, but unless he disrupts school, they're not interested in being involved in seeking help.

He is ok with me one on one, like going to museums or chatting about things he's interested in. But, although he still likes me to cuddle him, he never shows me affection or says he loves me unless he wants something, and then he's very false and cloying and obvious.

He wasn't always like this
He's just becoming more and more withdrawn.

I hope to turn things around before hormones kick in with adolescence.

Anyone have any advice? How do I make sure the gp, and subsequent professionals, take this seriously?

You need to write it down because if you're anything like me you'll start flapping when you get in there.

I would go straight out and ask for a referral to CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) and then lay out the reasons why.

Sorry, you're going through this, it must be tough x

Have you had any discussions with the school about it?

When I wanted ds assessed for Aspergers, I went into the school and asked straight out. They agreed and filled in a form, then an ed psych from the LA came out. At the same time as that was being planned, they told me to go to the GP and ask for a referral because we have strong suspicions of AS. I did exactly that and was referred to a speech and language therapist and a paediatrician, who then I made the official diagnosis. I was told that only they could make the diagnosis, but it might vary by area.

Was the psychologist you saw done through the GP?

Either way, I would simply say you want him assessed properly, and if you have any evidence from the school, then take it with you.

I talked to the school he attended last year (we moved from Scotland to England in December) and they had a child psychologist evaluate him. She said he wasn't Aspergers, I think because he failed to meet the three criteria necessary (the one he didn't meet being conversation/communication.)

I've talked to his head teacher at his current school and she said that as long as his behaviour is acceptable and he seems to be keeping up with the school work, they're not going to do anything. She told me to talk to gp.