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Original poster

To ban DH watching sport on holiday?

52 replies

ShadeofViolet · 13/06/2013 10:03

The last three holidays we have been on have involved DH watching a lot of sport, leaving me with the DC's while he watches it, or getting grumpy because he is missing it. It really is starting to grate.

Our holiday this year clashes with 2 of the ashes matches, and I know we are going to have the same thing. Getting snappy with the children, not wanting to do anything, or arranging what we do around sport.

AIBU to put a ban on watching sport while we are away?

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HeySoulSister · 13/06/2013 12:01

Putting the sports issue aside.... I don't see how you can 'ban' another adult from doing something anyway. Would you co operate with any ban imposed on you?

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/06/2013 12:07

Yes, yes, the poor man must of course be allowed to do what he wants all the time and sod his family Hmm

I love sport, DH loves sport. My parents have always loved sport. But it doesn't come ahead of actually living your life, especially it doesn't bugger up family holidays.

GenuineBrunetteRoots · 13/06/2013 12:56

I am surprised that some of you are all for letting the man do his own thing all the time on a family holiday.

I wonder if replies would be the same if it was a woman posting on here saying 'I'm going on holiday soon with my DH and children and want to spend most of the time watching sport. If I don't watch it I will be in a terrible mood'. I suspect she'd get a total roasting...

Callycat · 13/06/2013 13:41

I think YANBU. It's a holiday for the whole family, not just him. He should compromise!

ghayes · 13/06/2013 14:31

it's unfair to not expect him to watch any of it, it is holiday for him after all, as well as you and the children. But he should be prepared to compromise

Original poster
ShadeofViolet · 13/06/2013 20:22

But he isnt.

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wildspinning · 13/06/2013 20:41

YANBU at all! He is a selfish man-child!

If you don't have a partner and kids you can spend your hols doing exactly as you please, including watching sport on telly for days on end.

When you are a parent on a family holiday you accept those days are over and you spend your time with your partner and kids. End of!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/06/2013 20:48

Is he like this all the time?

I really couldn't live with someone who clearly thought that he was more important than me. It would kill any love and respect I had for them.

Shakey1500 · 13/06/2013 20:49

YANBU at all. 10-6?? Whilst you look after 3dc's? No way would I think that is reasonable. If it was one day then not a problem, but NINE days. Of sitting in the bar watching the TV and getting annoyed if he can't? Angry

Of course it's his holiday too and great to have some down time but where's yours? Not necessarily on your own but just to support/share the day/interact/enjoy etc?

Original poster
ShadeofViolet · 13/06/2013 20:54

He isnt like this all the time, but he works very hard, with long hours and works away every other week so isn't around much.

I think thats why he sees that he should be able to do what he wants. I just wish he wanted to spend time with us more.

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Bowlersarm · 13/06/2013 20:58

YABU is my first thought (I'm about to read whole thread Wink

I am female. If DH stopped me watching The Ashes if we were on holiday I wouldn't go. As a cricket fan, it's the highlight of a few years.

joanofarchitrave · 13/06/2013 21:02

He needs to think long-term - he's already got one child who doesn't like cricket. He should be investing time in playing cricket with them and showing them extremely edited highlights with a view to them all insisting on watching it with him in the future, and being able to send them on cricket holiday clubs which ds goes on and this is not at all connected with them having the longest day of any holiday club out there. Oh no.

skislope · 13/06/2013 21:06

I can't think of anything more depressing than going on holiday with someone who wants to watch the bloody television all the time. Particularly sport! Sadly sports fans think they are special. :-/

cardibach · 13/06/2013 21:09

as an aside, Lindos on Rhodes is beautiful! Are your DS's SNs physical, though? It's not very accessible. If not, you will love it.

Bowlersarm · 13/06/2013 21:10

No skislope I take exception to that. I don't think I'm special. I just like watching cricket. I am surprised by your attitude. It is there nothing you are passionate about?

Original poster
ShadeofViolet · 13/06/2013 21:13

cardibach

No, not physical disabilities.

Glad to hear its a lovely place :)

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ghayes · 13/06/2013 21:18

Was it his choice to go on holiday during the ashes?

Original poster
ShadeofViolet · 13/06/2013 21:22

I told him to book 2 weeks off in August and he booked these two weeks.

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skislope · 13/06/2013 21:22

Yes there's things I feel passionate about, I guess I wouldn't inflict them on my poor family though. I thought cricket was just mostly wandering about anyway?

manticlimactic · 13/06/2013 21:36

He isnt like this all the time, but he works very hard, with long hours and works away every other week so isn't around much.

Do you not work hard? Long hours? Especially with a child who has sn and a DH who works away at weekends.

I'd be royally fucked off.

Bowlersarm · 13/06/2013 21:44

ShockShock skislope wandering about

skislope · 13/06/2013 22:09

I'm sorry Bowlersarm (can't do bold), I think I've deeply upset you. I wouldn't worry, there are plenty of other cricket fans that understand!

Bowlersarm · 13/06/2013 22:15

Sadly skislope I don't think there are lots of fans who understand . Not women anyway. But just saying I understand OP OH. If we were on holiday I would want to be able to watch an important cricket match. ('Important' to cricket fans). It would matter to me.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/06/2013 22:22

Bowlers - I would want to have a means of keeping up with the score. Be that internet, TMS or whatever. I think that if you are on holiday - as in actually staying away from home rather than taking a few days off to loaf about - then other things should take priority over parking yourself in front of the TV for 8 hours a day.

And I say that as a woman who has just installed a TV in her kitchen so that I can still keep the house running and the children fed while the Ashes is on this summer.

Just because you are passionate about something doesn't mean that it has to rule your life 100% of the time.

Bowlersarm · 13/06/2013 22:30

No that's true. I suppose if it were me, I wouldn't have booked a holiday whilst The Ashes was on.