to have bought DH a father's day card?

[DorothyMantooth]

We have been together for 9 years and don't celebrate Valentines Day, although we do celebrate our wedding anniversary.

We now have a 3 month old DD. I had assumed that we wouldn't be celebrating father's (or mother's) day until DD is a bit older and can do something herself (like make a card or breakfast in bed). However the other day DH asked DD what she would be getting for daddy for father's day (whilst I was holding her). I thought this meant that fatherhood has made him go all gooey and sentimental (which it actually has, to a certain extent), and that he did actually want to celebrate father's day. So I went out and bought him a card and some small gifts from the baby.

This evening I mentioned that I had told DM not to visit on Sunday as it's father's day. He replied that he didn't care about FD and asked jokingly whether I would be sending him a card signed from DD. I got quite upset and told him that I'd actually also bought him gifts and had been planning to do a cake and his favourite meal.

DH thinks this is all pretty funny, but I'm now tempted to take all the stuff back and just treat it like a normal day, as was my initial instinct. He reckons I should just give him the presents on FD as I had been planning (he feels guilty about taking the piss before he realised that I really had bought gifts/card), but I think it will seem a bit stupid now that the sentiment has been taken out of it.

AIBU to be considering taking the gifts back or should we just go ahead with it as DH now wants to?

Oh dear. I feel the same way about Mother's Day as you DH does about Father's Day. But the card and present my three-week-old PFB DS gave me reduced me to a blubbering wreck

Give him the card and the presents. To make it a fresh gift start, how about saying that no, you're right about it being silly for DD to get a present, so these are from me?

Go ahead with it and expect him to do the same on Mother's Day!

Sounds like he doesn't want to be seen as being sentimental and admitting his first Father's Day card means a lot to him.

Give him the card - get some paint and put dd's handprint in it. Yes, she's not old enough to understand what the day might mean, but you could see it as a celebration of your first few months as parents. And remind him that come Mother's Day, you will be expecting a card at the very least.

tempus I also felt the same about it, as until the kid is old enough to do something themselves it just seems like yet another day to pressure people to buy gifts and cards they wouldn't otherwise buy. But I thought it was really lovely that DH wanted to celebrate and I got all sentimental buying him things from the baby. I'm sure I will also be changing my tune about MD!

sok, great idea about the handprint, may as well go the whole hog if we're going to do it!