To not understand 'no boxed gifts please'...

[MerryMarigold]

So today I got a wedding invitation which says this. There is no gift list in the invitation. Does this mean?

• No gifts
• We just want your cash
• No gifts that come in boxes like wine glasses, duvets or perfume

No comprendo

They want your cold hard cash.

Cheeky feckers

Thanks. So they are BU!

Buy some wine glasses & take then out the box

I may buy them a whole cheap Ikea dinner set and wrap it up in bubble wrap. We are the cheap rellies anyway...

Maybe they dont want to get rid of the cardboard

I agree, cheeky feckers. Why not be honest and say, 'cash only'.

This is worse, I think, than the bloody poem asking for cash.

I'd get them a toaster and take it out of the box and wrap it.

Is it an Indian wedding? We had it on our invitations - can you imagine the amount of space 300 boxes of presents takes up? We simply asked for people to attend as their presence was gift enough. If they pressed us or my parent for a gift list we gave details.

Ooh, I know. I will get them a composter. That'll look impressive all wrapped up. Then they can compost all future cardboard.

Dinky, it is a large wedding, not Indian, so maybe this is what they mean. But say they had a John Lewis gift list, it all gets delivered to your house anyway, not piles of presents. And they have not co-habited so they need everything new. I still don't see why they wouldn't choose a list with a large range of budgets included. It's nice to buy 'something' not give money. Maybe I am old fashioned. We will press the parents for ideas, as we are fairly close relations.

It could also mean that in lieu of actual gifts, they'd prefer to have gift cards to shops? When our friends recently got married, they were living with their parents beforehand, and hadn't found a house yet, so didn't want to start requesting furniture, kitchen stuff, etc., when they didn't know how big the house would be, what style would match, etc.

Just an odd way to phrase it though...

Buy new double duvet. Take it out of the box. Stuff it in a dustbin bag, or even better one of those free charity bags they put through the door asking you to fill up. Stagger through the door of the wedding reception with it, and ask where you should put it.

Job done. Teach them to be unclear.

Get them a box - with nothing inside.

Have seen this on alot of asian wedding invites. Think you can take it as either 'cash please' or 'dont worry about buying a gift'.

I wouldn't be offended by it though. Just a phrase that's commonly used by different culture.

Fair enough Merry. It may be that they have a gift list but arent giving details unless asked for them FWIW we ensured we had stuff starting from 2.50 on our gift list (which didnt actually have all that much on it and nothing over 50) to ensure all budgets were catered for.

Dh has phoned. It does mean no gifts apparently, and there is no gift list, but as dh said, people will bring gifts so they may as well get what they want. I think it is a subtle ask for money but uncle is too embarrassed to say.