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Should I get involved?

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ThoseArentSpiritFingers · 11/06/2013 12:26

Live in a 2nd floor flat. Ground floor neighbours are an Asian family, 1st floor a new tennent has just moved in, woman with 2 or 3 kids.

Apparently these new kids have been saying racist things to this kids from the ground floor flat, and that the family jar had to deal with a lot of noise of people coming and going from 1st floor flat at all hours.

Being on the top floor, we've avoide most of this, as they are not going past our flat. However last week I had just come in from work at 1am, and had some guy in the close banging on my flat door for about 10mins. I ignored it and stayed quiet an he eventually went away, but I was terrified as I was in the flat on my own. From watching the windows I know that he didn't leave the close so obviously went into the 1st floor flat. It's the only flat in the close that would have been having guests in that hour.

Ground floor neighbours have filed a complaint with the police about the antisocial behaviour. We got a letter through asking if we had any evidence to add to the complaint, an I was thinking I could phone and say about the guy. My dad is however telling me not to bget involved, and that it might lead to trouble for me.

What should I do?

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ThoseArentSpiritFingers · 11/06/2013 12:29

Should add... WIBU to not get involved?

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HeySoulSister · 11/06/2013 12:30

I would go and ask flat below if/why they were knocking on your door,just be polite and say you had headphones in,or some other excuse,so weren't sure.....get a feel for them. well that's what I would do anyway


fedupofnamechanging · 11/06/2013 12:31

I would say that you had some man banging on your door in the middle of the night and that you felt scared.

If you don't speak the truth then you will end up living with antisocial neighbours indefinitely and eventually it will affect you.

Your dad is being protective in telling you not to get involved, but you are involved because this is where you live.


ThoseArentSpiritFingers · 11/06/2013 12:32

My DP knows of them, originally from the same area as him. Apparently they are trouble and completely scummy, and that the late night visits are probably from dealing drugs out of the flat.

Hence why I do want them out but am wary to get involve

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redskyatnight · 11/06/2013 12:32

I would get involved if you had useful information to provide ? for example have you witnessed any of the racism shown towards the Asian family?
As you aren?t really aware of any general disruption, I don?t think one person banging on your door counts as useful info ? particularly since you can?t be sure who he was or where he was going.


CAF275 · 11/06/2013 12:33

I agree with your dad in that you shouldn't get involved BUT, you've been asked directly and specifically following a complaint to police so I would be honest and tell about the incidents you've mentioned but ask for discretion as you don't want any trouble.

If you don't get involved you might well run the risk of having trouble from 1st floor flat yourselves at a later date anyway by the sound of them.


MisselthwaiteManor · 11/06/2013 13:06

I would be honest and just tell them what you've said here. I don't think it's getting involved to answer a direct request, it's not like you're going down and confronting the neighbour.


Buddhagirl · 11/06/2013 13:14

Tell them, they won't know it is you


ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 11/06/2013 13:52

Do you have any evidence?

Someone else telling you that someone is saying something isn't evidence.

If you've seen or heard anything yourself, then I think you should list what that is.


kotinka · 11/06/2013 13:54

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EagleRiderDirk · 11/06/2013 13:55

The last time we had issues with the idiots next door the police asked the neighbour's the other side. They had previously had issues and said they were more than happy to give information however they wanted it to remain anonymous as they didn't want reprisals. Was good enough for the officers here.


DeepRedBetty · 11/06/2013 13:55

It's sweet that your dad wants to protect you, but I'd tell the truth. The more help the poor family on the ground floor get to shift this lot on as soon as possible the sooner you've got a chance of nice neighbours in all your flats again.


ThoseArentSpiritFingers · 11/06/2013 13:57

I personally wouldn't mention anything to do with the racial stuff, I have only heard that from the downstairs neighbours. While I don't think they are making it up, it's not my evidence to tell.

I could say about the guy though, I very much experienced that myself, it was terrifying. And although it can't really be directly linked to the 1st floor neighbours, it may help paint a bigger picture? Or do you think the police wouldn't be interested?

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PleasePudding · 11/06/2013 13:59

If these people have been disturbing you then you should be honest. Don't leave the ground floor flat to stand alone against these idiots if you are in agreement with their stance.

How shitty for you and the ground floor flat - it's horrible having awful neighbours but if you stand together you might be able to change the situation. If you don't nothing will change and the ground floor flat might get even more shit.


EldritchCleavage · 11/06/2013 14:02

Do it. Things could get much worse, and then you'd be 'involved' in the worst way. Don't assume because these people live below you that you won't get further problems from them. And as others have said, ask for discretion.

All 'Don't get involved' does is make sure many bad situations stay the same and arseholes flourish unhindered.


ThoseArentSpiritFingers · 11/06/2013 14:03

I'm hoping that they'll be got rid of very quickly, all the flats are privately rented so once there's a police case against them hopefully the landlord will just give them their notice, to save the hassle of having to deal with them

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