To want a bit of acknowledgement for my hard work?

[LittleMissGerardButlerfan]

Or am I just being needy? :o

I have spent the last 5 days having a good clear out, I have sorted the conservatory, the kids clothes, the lounge, and the shed, I am a bit if a hoarder so have to be in the right mood to clear out, but when I do I'm brutal!

My oh talks about sorting out, says we have too much stuff etc etc but never bothers to actually do anything even though I ask him too help (nicely). He always says he will help but never does.

Anyway he was in work today (as was i earlier) and he got home tonight as I was finishing off the lounge which had taken me hours, and all he could muster was an 'yes it's getting there' in a non committal voice!

All I wanted was an it looks good, you've worked hard acknowledgement :( is that too much to ask?

He is never enthusiastic about anything and it drives me mad, I don't want a song and dance, but a bit of appreciation would go a long way.

Sorry for the long moan, just feeling fucked off that I have worked so hard and get that response.

Oh well me and the kids can enjoy it while he is a miserable bastard!

I am a hoarder. I just spent 4 days sorting and cleaning... And have many more before i am done. I feel your pain... It is almost like they don't see all the stuff when it is there, so they don't realise how much work it took for it to be cleared. At least the cat is appreciative. He lies in every cleared spot like it is the new best place in the house.

That crap, I bet it looks lovely and you should be proud of yourself.

Pat on the back to you it takes a lot of time and effort to really 'gut' a room thoroughly. I always find the room needs a good clean too. I bet it looks lovely, it really is a job well done.

My dad's like this. I told him recently I'd lost 4 pounds (I have a long way to go). I just wanted him to be pleased I was finally making changes and to say, well done! Instead he just said 'not bad, long way to go so make sure you keep it up', I wonder if its a personality thing.

However as its your partner is it something you could talk about at a different time? Could you bring it up and say, 'when I say x, it would really help me if you could say y?'

Thank you everyone, when I start something I have to finish it, and it always takes me l

Oops posted too soon!

It always takes me longer than I think it's going too!!

I have tried talking to him about it, but he just doesn't see it and thinks he does acknowledge stuff so I don't bother anymore!

He struggles to understand other people's feelings sometimes and if your opinion is different to his then he just won't see your side. He's hard work sometimes!

However his parents are coming on Thursday on their way somewhere and although my mil has her faults I know she will praise me and be nice :)

LOL @ the cat.

I used to have a very overgrown garden that neighbours complained about. When I cleared it, it appeared they didn't even notice and I had no one to appreciate it except myself and one of the local cats, who used to turn up after I'd done some gardening and wander around the bit I'd just done. I called him 'the garden inspector'.

Well done for clearing the junk, LittleMiss, and sorry your OH doesn't appreciate it.