to get a second opinion/push for what I want.

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I am nearly 25 and 30 weeks pregnant with DC4.

DC4 is unplanned and I wasn't meant to be able to fall pregnant again due to complications after DC3 leaving me booked to have a hysterectomy (obviously cancelled) in July.

I am 100% I do not want anymore children after this one and god forbid anything happened with this one I wouldn't want to 'replace' her, not only is this due to physical health (pregnancy and me do not get on well) but for mental health as well as I suffer badly from antenatal and post natal depression as well as mild depression in between due to a slight hormonal imbalance.

I cannot take hormonal contraception due to the above and doctors are aware of this, I also had the copper coil but doctors suggested removal due to unpleasant side effects such as continous bleeding for 9mths.

So I want to be sterilsed I am 100% sure of this decision and saw my doctor this morning to be told she wouldn't refer me because of my age and the fact I am pregnant/have a baby under a year old.
I'm gutted as I would go private but its £1500 I have not got or have any hope of saving.

WIBU to go back and see another doctor and keep going until they agree to sterilise me?

I know I can use condoms but after an accident with one led to DC3 I don't trust them as it only takes one split one.

Not by any means an expert, but if they were willing to give you a hysterectomy before, why not a sterilisation now? What's the difference.

Yes. Push for what's right for you.

Yanbu. Four is a lot of children, your age is irrelevant to that fact. I agree you should push for what you feel is right for you.

Yes I did mention that to them, the reason she gave was because the hysterectomy was thought to be medically nessaccry but the sterilisation isn't.
So basically unless I end up with the same problems after DC4 is born (not likely but not impossible) then I don't require the hysterectomy and am too young for sterilisation.

Keep pushing. If you are sure, you are sure.

Yes you should push for what you want. Each case should be determined on its own merits, not decided on the basis of a tickbox questionnaire.

As an aside and I know its not the solution you want for you, but has your partner considered a vasectomy?

The vasectomy thing didn't really work out for me as EXH had it done because 3dc was enough, then we split and DC4 is with DP, although he is also willing to have a vasectomy I don't think I'd like to put another man through it as it isn't fair if we did ever split (still feel guilty over EXH even though it was his decision and his fault we split).

I got sterilised at 24 after 2 dc.s I had to push hard for it.

Absolutely keep pushing. There was someone on my antenatal group on MN who had a C-section and was sterilised while they were in there. She fought pretty hard for it IIRC.