Facebook paranoia

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Is it just me that's becoming more paranoid through Facebook..I have some people I regard as friends but am starting to feel more and more paranoid all because they all like each other statuses and pictures but not mine...
Actually just writing this out sounds ridiculous and I know I sound so silly but it's actually starting to make me doubt myself ...
has anyone else found this or is it just me being silly and unreasonable ? Perhaps if I am starting to feel this way I should come off it as I am not usually so sensitive !

I think people tend to interact more with people on FB who they see on a daily basis or regularly at least. eg. work colleagues.

Also they may not be seeing all your posts. When i check FB on my phone i can see posts from people that i didn't see on my laptop. It seems to show more posts from people you interact with on FB regularly i think

I'd love to say you're being ridiculous but I have felt something similar.

I'm work mainly with a group of 6 other women. Of these, 2 are a bit...odd. Keep themselves to themselves. The other 4 and myself are all reasonably friendly, have lunches all together etc.
A couple of weeks ago, one of them posted a comment on Facebook that they were trying to arrange a girls holiday next year, who's up for it, etc. She tagged everyone in work in it but me. I'm the only one of us with kids/ partner...I would never have gone...but still would be nice to be included.

Amazing how one sentence on a social media site can make a grown woman feel like a left-out teenager.

I think you are being a bit sensitive Glitter, but I understand you feel left out, which is a horrible feeling.

I recently missed liking my brother's engagement announcement because it never came up on my newsfeed. Luckily he doesn't rate our relationship in Facebook likes.

For some unknown reason, Facebook also rarely serves me up statuses from my group of best friends, although it shows me everything my cousin's wife (who is mainly an acquaintance) posts!

I tend to like only the odd status I think is particularly funny or fits my mood at the time. I honestly don't consider that liking a status on Facebook has any relevance to my real-life friendships.

I post on some people's statuses more than others, but it doesn't mean I like them any more than other friends. One of my best friends writes very boring status updates about her job which I never like, but I love her in real life where she is funny and witty (and her job is only a tiny part of her).

So I would try not to read too much into it. Or if it really bothers you, maybe step away from Facebook as it can magnify feeling left out totally unintentionally.

I discovered that I had my settings set to 'only me' so no-one was seeing my posts or pics. HTH

If they don't actually comment on your statuses or anything for a few days, you stop appearing on their news feed, so they don't see your remarks. This could be why they are not liking or commenting on yours.

Go and like theirs and see if that makes it more interactive.

Maybe find an excuse to tag them in a status.

It is not that they don't like you, it is that they don't see you.

I had the same thing when I was on there. I had a large group of 'mum friends' on there and because I missed this big get together they were having I noticed that I very slowly started to become more and more excluded. They'd all ignore my input on a status or whatever, were all chummy chummy liking one anothers stuff and completely ignoring me.

I did actually start to let it get to me and then I felt like you do, a bit immature for even thinking about it. It's very school-like on there, I witnessed a lot of competitive parenting and also if one member of said group dared to say anything the rest considered wrong then hell hath no fury... I hated it all so I just deleted my account in the end (after a row with one of the cows women actually which she started from a joke I made with my own personal friends who weren't in the 'group' and she decided to take it personally!).

It's all really playground like. I deleted nearly 2 years ago and haven't looked back. I no longer question myself and don't have that niggly feeling of not being liked or whatever hanging over me.

Yes I hate the way Facebook makes me feel. It's horrible and I think I should delete my account! However it seems to be the way most of my social group communicate and arrange things. You can see why it causes so much angst in schools!

A quick question regarding FB, have a couple of people on there, that 'seem' to be in my top friends as in they always appear on my newsfeed etc, yet I havent spoken to them in donkeys months and have zero interaction with as well with other stuff such as 'likes'. ??

I dont think FB sorts the newsfeed in any particular way!

I have actually left a Facebook group of mums I met on another parenting forum as they were all over each others' statuses and photos, and ignored mine. I deleted the lot of them and since I left and deleted, a handful of them have re-added me as a friend and have been very active on my statuses and with the like button, so I think it was intentional. Probably not in a malicious way, but in a more 'your face doesn't fit' way.

It was horrible, it made me feel really paranoid and unliked

I had a lot of incidents like that on FB and that's why I decided delete my account forever. It made feel very teenager again, getting upset about silly stuff and feeling excluded. The worst for me were birthdays.Out of more than a hundred "friends" only two would wish me happy birthday there whereas people who were not that nice in real life would get pages and pages. It made me feel really unpopular and left out.

The reason I have started to think this is because a group page which is only set to us had a status which other people commented on I couldnt but help notice that my comment was the only one which wasn't liked ....Gee how petty do I sound but it's happened lots :(

facebook is a weird place sometimes things come up on my newsfeed and sometimes they dont and tbh it isn't a reflection of real life I am not to fussed who likes posts or not saying that I do sometimes feel left out of things friends sharing a joke and if I reply I am sometimes ignored I think I am one of those invisible people