To be feeling very unsettled about moving house?

[Doubtfuldaphne]

Have moved around every few years since I left home at 17. Am now married with two dc's and we've continued this pattern due to dodgy landlords, mostly.
Three years ago we moved here and I absolutely love the house. We're all happy here and ds goes to the school 5 minutes away and he's able to meet with his friends in the village when he likes. But the house is falling apart in paces, lots of stuff needs doing and the landlord is aggressive and has already said they want to sell within the next 2 years so they're not bothered about fixing problems. There's no way they'll do any repairs or even respond to our letters, emails, calls most of the time.
We viewed a house and we both really loved it and put in an offer of a low rent to see if they'd accept and they did. now suddenly we're going in one month. It'll be all new inside, well looked after by an agency this time and its a beautiful house. Dh is very excited and has no worries leaving this house. It's 5 miles from where we are now though and a completely new town. It's also very rural but a very friendly community. Dh has a lot of friends there already who seem really excited about us being more local.
I really hope I'm doing the right thing here. I just look at this house and feel like crying. I'm so fed up of moving and I feel so bad for my ds. Dd is only 2 but she will also feel unsettled I'm sure.
Someone give me encouragement?

For me my home is my sanctuary and if it's falling about your ears the current house will be a source of worry and as the landlord is obnoxious I think you are doing the right thing. Give the new location a fair go. Try not to let DS see you have reservations. The next place could offer a lot. If you can, try and carry forward what it is about your present home that appeals.

It sounds like you'll mostly be better off with the new house, rather than with an aggressive landlord who won't do repairs. Would you really want to remain in your current house in those circumstances? The new house sounds lovely.

I moved last year from a house I owned where there were lots of major things which needed doing and the neighbours were a problem, to a rented house where everything has recently been replaced inside. It's so nice. The floors are so much easier to vacuum than the worn out old carpets I had before and I no longer lay awake listening to creaks and worrying about whether something major is about to fall down and how on earth to fix it.

I hate moving, even moving somewhere crap to somewhere nice makes me feel all sad and anxious - but honestly, once you've been there for two days you won't look back.

You poor love. Moving is the work of satan.

I believe that if you move frequently, every time you do so, it awakens the sadness of all the previous loves do the whole thing becomes awful.

Plus the wrench and guilt of leaving your childrens' memories is horrid.

Not helpful, but I totally understand.

Once you get there, it will be new and exciting and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.

Hope you've got someone to help and make tea and pass discrete tissues!!

*previous MOVES!

Having moved twice in the last 12 months I know where you're coming from. It's incredibly stressful but it sounds like you'll be a lot happier in your new place. Just think - in a couple of months you'll start feeling settled again and the actual move itself will be a fading memory.

Go for it and don't put up with the crap landlord you've currently got. We also privately rent and the only good thing about it is that you have the freedom to 'up sticks' and try something new. Sometimes you get lucky so hopefully you will this time. Good luck...

From what you've said it is a good move to be making :)

I get terribly unsettled when I move childhood trauma and I am a right arse about it. We will be selling thing house and moving in the new year and the thought of it is making me sweaty already.

Dd is only 2 but she will also feel unsettled I'm sure. Unless she has some sort of special needs that make her particularly sensitive to change, I can guarantee you that she will be absolutely fine! We had 2 house moves in 8 months and our DC (then aged around 3 and 18 months) barely noticed it - as long as they're with their parents, they don't care.

How old is your DS? Will he need to go to a different school?