to want to know if dp's name is on the birth certificate of a child that isn't his?

[LittleLisa78]

Dp's exW changed her name by deed poll to new boyfriends name after they split. She was pregnant and split with new boyfriend just after the birth. Baby was given dp's surname and his exW has now reverted to that name too. Baby is one million percent not dp's but I think he needs to make sure she didn't put him on the birth certificate as it could cause issues in the future. DP has done nothing about it. AIBU?

What year was child born

I'm pretty sure in england you can look this up online.

YANBU to want to know but YABU to do anything about it when your DP can't be bothered. It seems you are on a mission atm to sort things he won't do regarding his children he abandoned and now this possible child too. I wonder if focusing on all these things you cannot change is a way of avoiding dealing with the things in your life that you could change.

DNA means there won't be any "problems".

Also if birth was pre-2007 (I think), you could check BDM register.

Why would it cost more if you have less information?

I've had to order various certificates in my time with differing amounts of info as to what was on them, and I've never paid different sums for them. The only exception was when I went directly to a registry office to get a certificate because I happened to be in the same county as the wedding took place.

Afaik, you can order all certificates online for a flat fee. It will cost more if you want it quickly.

What are you going to do with the information when you get it OP?

You seem to labouring under the delusion that if you force him to step up with his other DC and force him to deal with this situation that he will transform into this wonderful man.

He wont. If you split up with him, he will do the same to you.

He is not a nice man and not a good father, the sooner you realise that, the better.

Firstly the ex can only add his name onto the birth certificate if he was present at the time of registration.

You can't just rock up and declare anyone the father for obvious reasons.

So either it's a total non-issue or your DP is stretching the truth.

Secondly I have to ask how you know "one million percent" that it's not your DP's child? Is the evidence the fact he's told you so?

I just cannot understand why a woman would want to give someone else parental responsibility (by adding him to the BC) when she doesn't have to and frankly would be illegal (even if she could). Given most people make sensible choices, my bullshit detector has sounded.

Niceguy Not true. If they were still legally married at the time of registration then yes, she can add his name as it is assumed that the husband is the father.

NIceguy, he's married to her (still!), so she could have put his name. I agree that it may well be his child.

This man is not a nice man.

My exH's name is on DS1s BC even though he's not his, we met when I was pregnant and he insisted he be named as the father. When I left and went to the CSA (we also had DD) he immediately said he wasn't his and that was that. No drama.

Not one of my cleverest choices but what's done is done.

Apologies, I missed that they were married.

Something doesn't smell right though.

I dont think theres much you can do to be honest, your DP will have to sort it himself