I know that I won't...it wouldn't help my situation or do anyone any good..but in my head..my angry head....I am doing it.
He's the father of my child, a very successful man in his industry and everyone considers him to be so lovely, cuddly, the man to depend on etc.
He left us some time ago and yes, I know relationships break up. But I contacted him recently with some huge problems with our daughter. I was very physically ill and he wouldn't help, even by phone. I was only asking for a conversation. He turned off his phone and ignored my pleas.
My daughter made a suicide attempt. Now she is going through treatment and is finding life very hard, as I am. I am sitting here this morning trying to fight that 'what's the point' feeling.
I told him the facts by email - calmly, unembellished. He did not respond. I had explained that if he just called to ask how she was, it would help. All my family have been calling and leaving nice jolly messages. She is in a dark place and pushes people away, gets aggressive with me. None of us can take it personally and I'm sure that anyone here with depression, or someone who lives with depression, will understand fully. It is very hard to deal with and has to be handled gently. She hasn't wanted to see her father for a very long time and I have asked her frequently if she would like to. But I have explained and explained that if he wants to build things, then he needs to at least phone up and not be a complete stranger.
I did contact his mother in the end - because I know that she would also want to be informed. Eventually I got an email from him which basically stated 'We need to get on with our lives now.' Nothing asking how his daughter is except a 'I love her now as deeply as the first day I saw her.' But no questions about her treatment, her state of mind etc. Nothing at all. It is as if I never mentioned it.
I am sorry for boring you all. I would much prefer to have posted about the lady on the escatalor and her pube-escaping shorts. This is just making me so angry - that people have a perception of someone without knowing the truth.
If you have a good dad or if your child has a good dad, treasure them. You are very lucky. Please wish me luck with my daughter and her problems - they all feel so very crushing at the moment.