To think its rude not to RSVP to party?

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It was my dc3 birthday party today. We had hired a local hall with bouncy castle,soft play etc.

I gave out the invitations 2 weeks ago with my number on it to RSVP.

Off the 25 or so kids invited 11 turned up. Now I understand many people have other commitments but I see most of these people every day-saw some of then today in fact-and not one of them bothered to let me know that they couldn't make it.

AIBU to think its common manners to RSVP?

DC3 still had a great time though and we have lots of sandwiches,crisps and sweets left to last us all week!!

I hate people not rsvping. For ds's party in January we invited about 30 people. 14 turned up and of the 16 that didn't only 4 rsvp'd to say they couldn't come.

Rude, rude, rude!

It really irritates me as well especially if they don't RSVP and then come! I have a friend who never rsvps i think she is just very disorganised but how hard it is it to text when the invite comes home and if not sure text a maybe with can I let you know I think most people would prefer that than no answer at all.

That's a bit sad Mikii, do you not invite vegetarians either?

OP YANBU, it is rude.

Yes it is rude. I'm still waiting for people to RSVP to my wedding. I even put a stamped addressed envelope in each invitation so there is no excuse.

I had people with day invites not bother to RSVP to our wedding, as well as someone who RSVP'd yes then didn't show. There were a few evening non-responders / no shows too, but while that's rude I don't think it's quite as rude as the day guests.

I'm not sure what has happened to people's manners.

OP, YANBU.

With ds1 I send him into school a few days before the party primed to tell those who haven't responded that I am going to buy party bag stuff just for those that have RSVP-ed.

Works a charm - they go home and pester their parent to ring me up or text .

However he came home the other day saying he had had an invite to xxx party but lost the invite. Luckily I had the mum's number so sent a text but had to word it really carefully - in previous years a different child had told the entire class they were invited but his mum had booked something for just 10 people so she had had to fend off people saying about lost invites and then explain that they weren't actually invited. So I didn't want to find myself inviting ds to something he wasn't actually invited to!

Maybe word the invite differently next time?

Please RSVP by 5th of June so I can finialise numbers. I'll assume your child can't make it if we don't hear from you

YANBU. It is very rude. I had my dd's 4th birthday party yesterday - a pay per head in advance type one. Everyone replied except one person who decided to show up. I had paid for her anyway, just in case but it would have been annoying to pay £15 more than I needed to.

I wouldn't dream of not RSVPing - it's common courtesy.