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AIBU?

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To wonder if it's strange to go in a shop this often?

25 replies

wamabama · 07/06/2013 17:43

I go in my local wholefoods store 1-2 times a week every week, usually only once. I go because they stock things my regular supermarket don't and they are things that I need (as a vegan there's certain cheeses and mayonnaise etc that I can only find in there). So basically I go to top up my normal weekly shop. It's in the city centre so some weeks I'm there twice for an appointment or to pick up something i've reserved, to see a friend etc. If i'm there i'll go in to have a look around, see if there's anything I need or fancy. Usually always get something, even if it's only a drink. I last went in on Wednesday because I had a bank appointment so popped in afterwards to get the items I couldn't get on my weekly shop. Today I was in town meeting a friend so went in just as one of the various shops we went in, got my DS a little snack and myself a drink.

Anyway so this is where i'm wondering if i'm strange or not. There's a guy who works in there and either he works every day (I don't go in on the same days every week, it varies) or more likely his shifts always happen to be on the days I go in. We always talk, nothing unusual just normal small talk. But today after he said hello he asked why I come in every day... I was a bit Confused and said I don't come in every day! He said 'pretty much' so I made a bit of a joke of it and just said 'I come in once or twice a week, you're acting like i'm obsessed the place!'. He said he just wondered, told me about some offer they had on and walked off.

It really surprised me that he even asked tbh and especially that he thought I was there every day. Sorry, I have a bad habit of overthinking things so this is probably just another example of that but it has bugged me ever since so that's why I needed to ask! I'm just worried now that I come across as strange or sad or whatever because I go in there weekly. I just considered myself a regular customer and didn't think there was anything particularly odd about that.

Blush I know this is silly of me to actually be worrying about it but honestly, I'm wondering if I should stop going now. I also don't think he should have asked anyway, none of his business really is it? I should note it wasn't in a rude tone or anything but he did come over from the work he was doing to ask..

So AIBU to go in so often? Does it make me odd?

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EMUZ · 07/06/2013 17:47

I don't think it's odd at all. I use a local shop pretty much every day, although I did get a bit BlushBlush when he has my paper and cigarettes without asking now

RevoltingPeasant · 07/06/2013 17:47

I think he was rude. Unless he thought you were shoplifting or something.

I go to the same place for lunch every day. I expect them to appreciate my business (they do!). I'd be Hmm if they asked me why I came so often.

Although I think your response sounded defensive. I think I would have said 'Well, it's a grocery store and I come in to pick up bits and bobs a few times a week. Why?'

I'd be a bit distant with him too.......

HazeltheMcWitch · 07/06/2013 17:48

You're over-thinking this.
You don't go in every day, and even if you did, so what?

He was either making idle chat, or trying to be funny.

wonderingsoul · 07/06/2013 17:48

maybe he thinks you fancy him... is he kind on the eye? Grin

no i dont think your odd, and whilst i dont th ink he shoudl have said it, i dont think he was being rude or unkind, just that he reconises you and was just a remark to make chat?

wonderingsoul · 07/06/2013 17:50

EMUZ-- you only have to worry when your local all ready has your drink poured befor eyou step in Wink

wamabama · 07/06/2013 17:52

Grin wonderingsoul He's not bad and he is about my age so I guess it could be that, never considered that before!

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AnnoyedByAlfieBear · 07/06/2013 17:52

I go to Sainsburys almost daily!! It's the closest thing to us and I take DS when I go for a walk with the pram.

Also I went to Wholefoods for the 1st time the other week. It was amazing! I'd spend a fortune if I went there as regularly!

wamabama · 07/06/2013 17:55

annoyedby Yes I am the same! I feel like I should buy shares Grin

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wonderingsoul · 07/06/2013 18:02

well, it could be the start of a romantic love story ..

in which case your have to give us updates and invites to the wedding Wink

RevoltingPeasant · 07/06/2013 18:04

Hmm maybe he was making a pass - but honestly, I think it's pretty weird to leave what you are doing, walk over to someone, and ask why they come in so often.

If it's a pass, it's a pretty inept one.

wamabama · 07/06/2013 18:14

revolting Last time I was in there after our chat he started belting out a song before apologising and saying he likes singing to himself Grin I did figure he was slightly kooky.

Blush Now i'm wondering if it's that after all!

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stupidlybroody · 07/06/2013 18:17

I work in a small shop in an estate where the bigger shops are quite far away. Many customers come in upwards of 3 times every day!! A couple of times a week definitely isn't too much, I think he was just trying to have a bit of banter but maybe phrased it wrong

Branleuse · 07/06/2013 18:18

clumsy chit chat. a bit rude but probably unintentional

MrsBertMacklin · 07/06/2013 18:37

I am 99% sure that he was tentatively going for a chat-up line. Now that you've said you're the same age, 99.5%.

SodaStreamy · 07/06/2013 18:40

I'd go for him thinking you might like him and was testing the waters?

wonderingsoul · 07/06/2013 18:42

i think hes been watching to many match.com advert...

he starts singing... then you look back, smile shyly and join in.....

BridgetBidet · 07/06/2013 18:45

He fancies you. And he was hoping that the reason you go in every day is cos you fancy him.

wamabama · 07/06/2013 18:50

Oops. Should I have said 'to see you of course' Wink then? He is handsome, no denying it but I never considered that he'd like silly old me Blush. Grin at the match.com advert.

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Haggisfish · 07/06/2013 19:04

Yep, I think he fancies you, too!

allnewtaketwo · 15/06/2013 07:25

I think either he fancies you or he thinks you fancy him, or both. He wouldn't have said it to a bloke, or an elderly woman

HollyBerryBush · 15/06/2013 07:26

Was he chatting you up?

SPsCliffingAllOverMN · 15/06/2013 07:31

Probably idle chatting

I have a co-op and I'm in there nearly every day. I'm on first name terms with the staff and my son goes round talking to them.

No ones asked me why yet though. Does that mean no one wants me? Sad Grin

wamabama · 15/06/2013 08:36

Oh I don't know but I went in on Wednesday again and he didn't talk to me, first time ever! He didn't even say hello. Wonder if my response last week made him think he'd annoyed me! Grin

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3MonthMaid · 15/06/2013 09:05

Next time you go in, just smile at him and say "hi me again!" or something similar and then the time after, you can see how he is and maybe initiate a general chat.

He probably feels like he was knocked back so he is backing off.

With you being vegan and him working in a whole foods shop you should have plenty to chit chat about!

ZillionChocolate · 15/06/2013 09:14

DH had to stop eating so many burgers (pre me) when the very busy city centre fast food joint knew his order.

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