I am your parent, not Nana.

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me: Dd1, go to number 20 and get their Avon book (dd1 gets all of the money from Avon it's her job)
dd1: I can't
me: Why?
dd1: Nana said I am not allowed to collect the Avon books. A bad man might get me
me: Well, Linda is not a man, nor is she bad, also if she wanted to 'get you' she would have done so by now. Go and get the book.
dd1: But Nana said...
me: Nana is not your parent. I am.

Me: Can I leave you at school with your friends this morning, dd2 has to be there early and I don't fancy waiting around for half an hour for you to go. I'll wait until your friends arrive.
dd1: No, nana said I can't wait at school on my own anymore. A bad man might get me.
Me: Well, tough. I am not waiting. There are no bad men in your school yard.
dd1: But Nana said...
me: Nana is not your mother.

me: Will you nip to the shop and get me some milk?
dd1: I can't.
me: If you mention bad men one more time you are grounded
dd1: I don't care anyway. I can't go to the swings anymore. The bad men might be waiting for me. Nana said.
me: SHOP. MILK. NOW!

Me: Tidy your room, please.
dd1: I can't.
me: Why? Is there a bad man there?
dd1: No, Nana said I am too young to have to tidy my own room. You do it.
Me: ROOM. TIDIED. NOW.

FFS. I want to string my mother up. Dd1 could not go into the shop on her own this morning and catch up with us on the way to school, because "There might be a bad man waiting"

I wouldn't have her collecting the Avon money, what if she is mugged? She is very young to be doing something like that IMO.

The rest, YANBU, but you are undermining yourself by getting her to do something that you should be doing yourself.

No there is nothing wrong with a 10 year old wanting to earn extra pocket money No-one has suggested that there is, simply with the manner of her doing it.

But, as with all your other threads you aren't really wanting anyone to disagree with you, are you?

She's not collecting the money alone, only the books. I take out the orders with her and help her count out any change she needs to give.

Why am I undermining myself by getting her to do something she is being paid for?

If I needed extra cash, I'd do more hours at the job I already have.

I used to deliver my Mum's avon catalogues at houses a couple of miles away when I was 10 or younger No bad men got me

'What if she's mugged'? she's going a few doors away to collect Avon books not wearing a securicor uniform carrying a safe box.

All of mine have earnt money form 7or 8 rather than having pocket money. There was a study a while ago saying that if kids earn money rather than being given pocket money they are much more likely to become budgeters and savers as adults.

OK so just say 'fine' to tha\t one. No collecting, so no extra money for her.
The rest you can stamp down on.

Ooo someone has a gripe - take it elsewhere Alibaba!

OP - YANBU, about any of it!

I think it time to tell Nana if she keeps going on about 'bad man' getting your children then you are going have to rethink the contact between them.