To not go to the wedding and regret agreeing to the Hen night?

[MyGrain]

Sorry last one from me today!

Basically DP and I have been invited to a "friends" wedding - I say "friend" as I hardly know her. She is a friend of my cousin and whilst we've been on a few nights out together, I still wouldn't say she's my friend. More my cousin's friend.

Anyway she's invited us to the reception AND the actual wedding itself. DP has never met her so doesn't really want to go anyway and it's come at a right awkward time for us as we're moving house and going to Glastonbury etc. So I want to turn down the wedding invite. Is this mean?

I also regret saying I'll go on the hen night as I won't know anyone and it seems off going to that and not to the wedding. Plus it means extra expense. (Although I've already paid £30 for it so that would be a waste).

What would you do?

I think it was very kind of her to invite you, but if would be uncomfortable then don't go, but make sure you let her know in plenty of time.
Not sure what the etiquette is for attending the hen do but not the wedding, but if I'd already spent some money on it, I'd go.

I think it's fine what you're doing. You've paid your money; you're not getting a freebie from her and y attending the hen party, you're showing that whilst you cannot attend the wedding, you wish her well. Just go and have fun!

as you've paid you might as well get your money's worth, but you don't have to. For the wedding, just send a polite no thank you. It's a party that you don't want to go to and can't really go to. End of.