to not expect to have to mother the adults in my life when I have a 4 month old

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My first child was born in February and I am so happy with him. He is such a well behaved child - sleeps through the night, doesn't scream and holler and easy to settle. I'm actually amazed at how well I'm coping.

DM and DP are driving me crazy. DM panics every time he cries and I'm sure DS picks up on this. I am convinced that being calm is the best thing. DP, on the other hand, thinks DM, DMil and myself are picking him up too much. This leads to lots of disagreements between DM and DP and neither will back down. My own views on parenting seem to fall in between these two. Neither realises how stressed the pair of them are making me. Both make DS stressed in different ways. Have tried talking to both of them and things improve for a bit but then they regress again.

Wouldn't be such an issue but I'm going back to work in 6 weeks time ( no choice) and DP is looking after him for 3 days a week and DM for 1. Worried what I'm going to come back to each night.

Am I being a bit PFB?

Congratulations on your baby.
Do your DM/DMiL live with you? It sounds as though there are too many people around too much of the time. Tbh, you and your DP need to agree how you're going to look after your ds and then make that clear to the other adults who'll be involved in his care. Otherwise, I'd have thought you need to rethink your childcare arrangements.

Thanks jkklpu. No its just the three of us living together. DM and DMil are pretty close though. DMIl isn't a problem at all...gives sensible advice and knows when to back off.

Think solution is to have serious chat with my mum and tell her to back off a bit. Think she is putting all of her hangups from when DB was a baby onto ES.

Just wanted to vent really! Coping so much better than I thought I would. Just thought baby would be giving ne stress rather than adults!