To not ruin my mum and dad's third holiday in a row?

[NarkyNamechanger]

Massive dilemma to answer.

A couple of years ago my mum's best friend died whilst they were abroad and I felt I had no choice to tell them. The funeral was to be couple of days after they got back so I wanted to give her time to get her head round the news. They were also both close to the bf's dh and I knew they'd want to call him and offer support.

Then last year my nan was taken seriously ill. She lives in another country and my dad ended up flying from his holiday to his mother to visit her on her presumed deathbed (she actually pulled through).

Then Monday they went on holiday again and much joking has taken place about what bad luck my parents' holidays are. My mum is feeling quite sensitive about this.

I've just received news that another family friend has died- they are close on a day to day basis but I know they'd go to the funeral and visit the family etc.

Wwyd? I can't bring myself to make that call a third time but my brother doesn't think it's our decision to make and they should be told.

I'd say no, don't tell them until they get home - let them enjoy their holiday. What a horrible thing to happen for their 3rd holiday in a row! Sorry for your / their loss.

Dont tell them. OH's Gran died while my Sis in Law was on holiday a few years ago. Telling them won't change anything and they will be home for the funeral so say nothing and let them enjoy their break.

Don't tell them - let them enjoy their holiday. Because after a run of bad luck like that they may never want to go away again

Definitely don't tell them and let them have one holiday in peace.

Let them enjoy their time away this time. I think it can wait until they return home.

When we once had to break "death news" to close family members on holiday, we decided to meet them at the airport on their return, even though they were going to make their own way home by public transport. This seemed a reasonable compromise.

Ah we'll it's been taken out of my hands.

Someone else (who really should keep their nose out) has text them the news.

I'm so so pissed off.

Oh no, I hope they're ok.

Yeah they are but tbh I can really see my mum starting to get funny about going away.

Dont tell them.

If I was their friends id be shitting a brick ebery time they go on holiday with this track record!!

Wait til you know when the funeral is. If they can finish their holiday and still attend, leave telling them til they get back. They can't do anything about it so why ruin their hols!?

I've only just read this, so I'm sorry they've been told. However, I am definitely in the "don't tell" camp.

A few years ago, when DD was in Year 6, the grandmother of one of her friends died on the Monday when the class had gone for a Mon-Fri residential. The child was not told until she had returned home, although it was clear that there had been calls to her teachers to arrange for her to be the first off the bus and hustled away before well meaning idiots tried to speak to her parents to offer condolences.

The parents (and bereaved grandfather) had agreed not to spoil the trip by telling her and pulling her out early because they thought that she should also have good memories of being with her classmates.

Person is already dead, they are not going to get any worse.

I would wait until your parents were home.

I wouldn't tell them. Only thing it will do is ruin their holiday. It can wait til they get home surely?

oh, they've been told :( hope they're okay and can carry on and get some enjoyment from their holiday.

Tell then when they get back. Let them e joy their holiday