To think they could have been a bit more helpful?

[dilanddan]

O.h, myself and dd went with o.h's parents to his dad's baptism. It was an hour drive away to the venue and, despite not sharing their beliefs (they're JWs) o.h felt obliged to go for support etc.

1 week later, o.h received a letter from Gloucestershire constabulary to say he'd been caught speeding in an area of roadworks on the motorway (he was doing 52 in a 50 zone).

3 options were given: £60 fine and 3 points on his licence, £70 and a speed awareness course or court. So o.h has chosen the course as he doesn't like the idea of not having a clean license.

We told his parents and all they has to say was 'oh thats a bit of a pain' now aibu to think they should offer to help by paying back the £100 they owe us from buying a tablet computer from me and some shopping we've done for them? Seeing as we've been waiting almost a month now for them to cough up.

Am I being petty?!

Surely these are two separate issues - your OH's parents should reimburse you for the shopping and computer, has your OH asked them for the money? It confuses the issue by bringing the speeding fine into it. Just remind them that they owe you £X for whatever it is you have bought for them.

If they owe you money then no yanbu, but if you are expecting help with the fine then yanbu.

Not quite sure how the 2 things are related, sorry.

Also agree they are 2 separate issues. If you need the money more urgently because of the fine, then you probably have to spell this out.

How can you get a speeding fine for doing 52 in a 50?

Each cars mileometer is different and they allow 3/4 miles an hour to compensate.

They are now the same issue. Your H should not have been speeding, his fault he got caught, as are the consequences of that.

His parents owe you money, yes, they should pay it back. They should not 'offer to help', they should just pay back the money they owe.

They are NOT the same issue!!

The letter we had said 52 in a 50, I cant help what's written in black and white!

and yes, he has asked them for it every few days for the last 3 weeks

I'd contest it then.

Do a search on google, you can easily prove the calibration of most mileometers is out by a couple of miles.

Thats annoying but its nowt to do with the fine?!

I don't really see how the whole baptism story is relevant.

They should pay you back the money they owe you because, well, they owe it. Ask them for it

2 separate issues. They owe you money. Your DH exceeded the speed limit whilst driving. The fact that he did it whilst going to his dad's baptism is hardly their fault. You seem to be suggesting they should pay for the speed awareness course because of this.

If they are saying 52 in a 50, he was probably doing at least 56. What does he think he was doing?

Also, the baptism, he beliefs, the tablet and the fine are completely unrelated.

Just to be picky, technically the £70 isn't a fine, it's a course fee (I did it once and I thought it was brilliant, but that's beside the point!)

I think the course option kicks in up to 6 or 7 miles above the speed limit (thought it does seem a bit tight for 2 miles!) Beyond that, you're considered beyond redemption and you have to pay the fine and suck up the points.

Completely agree with everyone else about the two issues being totally unrelated. Yes they should pay you back but not because you've got this extra expense. That is entirely of your DH's making!

If its an area of roadworks it could be an average speed check area, where they clock you going in and coming out. The average speed is therefore 52 meaning OPs husband would have been doing significantly more than 50 mph on occasions.