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to be cross with this cricket coach?

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joshandjamie · 04/06/2013 22:49

My boys aged 9 and 7 played in their second cricket match for the local cricket club tonight. The under 9s age group includes kids from 6 through to 9. So they played their match and they won by 1 run. There was some dodgy bowling and batting and fielding as is normal with a mixed bag of kids this age who have hardly ever played together.

My kids have complained since joining the club that they don't like the coach but I'm a bit of a tough love type of mum and say, well he's the coach so listen to him.

But tonight after the match, he took them into the changeroom (parents stay outside) and sat for 15 minutes giving them a lecture (it was after 9pm). My children came out looking utterly dejected and given they won I asked why. According to my children he said nothing positive.

Here are some of the things he said to the kids:

  • He said that they didn?t deserve to have won.
  • He found something bad to say to every child.
  • To one child he apparently said that his bowling was the most horrifying he had ever seen and that he wishes he could turn back time so that he didn?t have to see it.
  • Despite my 9 year old hitting four 4s, he was told that he needed to improve his batting because it was poor.
  • My 7 year old was told off as he lost a wicket and the coach apparently said that if it hadn?t been for him, they would have been much further ahead.
  • To another child, apparently he just looked at him and sighed.

As a result neither of my boys want to play anymore (now that I have just payed the fees....) But I don't want them to give up. They enjoy playing and I don't want their confidence squashed by a man who obviously isn't suited to coaching this age group. (Incidentally he also stood on the pitch and repeatedly swore - bloody hell - in earshot of the kids saying it 'was the worst bloody bowling he'd ever seen')

I am taking a lot of what my kids say with a pinch of salt but they were so downbeat after winning a match that there must be some truth in what they are saying.

Am I being unreasonable in writing a letter of complaint to the club? Because I have. I feel bad because he probably coaches on a voluntary basis but it's wrong to demoralise kids at this age.
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joshandjamie · 05/06/2013 16:47

he also coaches under 15s which is probably why he forgets that these are little kids

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Mehrida · 05/06/2013 18:13

I'm also a qualified coach and I would never communicate to kids like that. Especially after they'd won the game!

What do the other parents make of it all? Did their kids feel the same?

timidviper · 05/06/2013 18:19

When my son played junior cricket his team beat their local rivals in a team match. Their team all came out of the changing room crying after their coach had told them off, we were all horrified!

I would be careful though that your childrens' perception is not different to others in the team. I have also seen incidents where one child was upset but all the others thought it was fine.

Dadthelion · 05/06/2013 18:23

He shouldn't really be on his own in the changing rooms.

joshandjamie · 05/06/2013 21:13

I don't really know any of the other parents and didn't get a chance to talk to them since as we left straight after the match and have no way of contacting them. The boys had training tonight and apparently the coach was better. But I haven't heard anything back from the welfare people so no idea if they have spoken to him or not

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