Wanting people to clear up after themselves

[ThisWayForCrazy]

My house is full. On a normal week there are two adults, an almost 16 year old and two toddlers, other weeks there are 3 aged 7,10 and 11 added in.

I spend all day picking up after them all. And it is driving me insane.

This morning I came down to find that the kitchen I cleaned last night is littered with bits of toast, bread crumbs, jam and butter still out and splashes on the surface along with cornflakes and milk

I am not normally up with the children first thing. I breastfeed during the night. DH gets up at 6, has his shower, gets ready for work and by then the kids are up. He gives them breakfast. If he does change them then I have nappies littering the floor and dirty clothes everywhere.

AIBU to expect him to put dirty clothes for the wash, nappy in the bin, bowls in the kitchen, food back in the fridge and wipe the surface?

He thinks I am as I get a half hour lay in on my own. And that I expect too much.

Your H sounds just like mine is at the moment.
I am still not back to work after having DC3 am now a SAHM, this seems to mean that I do everything and he only does it if asked, his day ends at 5 when he leaves the office and mine basically never ends!!!

I really don't understand how me not working = dog body.

He does pick up his pants and socks but only once I had asked him if he respected me so little that he thought I should do that, ifkwim.