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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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WIBU to not BLW?

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ItsallisnowaFeegle · 03/06/2013 21:45

I can't get my head around it.

My DS is just 6 months and he's had porridge and fruit/ veg purées.

Over the past week, I've been attempting BLW but he's not in the least interested.

I've offered a plethora of well cooked finger foods but he will entertain nothing.

I don't mind admitting BLW boggles my brain and I am really struggling.

I joined a BLW forum but still feel out of my depth.

WIBU to wean DS the way I did DD, almost 15 years ago?

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 03/06/2013 21:48

BLW is not the be all and end all. Do it whatever way works for you.

DD2 is 6.5 months and we are doing a mixture of purees and finger foods. Its slow progress though. Porridge is a total no no for some reason.

Seekingsense · 03/06/2013 21:49

YANBU,

As far as I know, and I'm happy to be corrected, there isn't any evidence to say that either method is superior or leads to a higher likelihood of a child becoming a good eater when they're grown so just do what you like.

Do what works for your family.

exoticfruits · 03/06/2013 21:50

It is a baby led- he doesn't want finger food! Just do what suits you- the aim is to get him to eat family meals- how you get there is unimportant, the period is so short.

littlestressy · 03/06/2013 21:50

Do whatever you like, he's your baby!

littleblackno · 03/06/2013 21:51

YANBU. I didn't do BLW for my DS as although he would open his mouth and eat anything, he wasn't interested in feeding himself. My DD was the total opposite and very much blw, she would only eat if she could feed herself - without me really trying. Kids are different and have their own ideas on what/ how they want to eat, i think!!
Hope that helps!

Fairylea · 03/06/2013 21:52

Just do whatever you feel comfortable with.

All babies will be eating normally by the time they are adults regardless of how they are weaned! Personally I think there's far too much emphasis on blw and there's absolutely nothing wrong with puree!

I weaned dd now aged 10 and ds 1 year old on puree and then gradually lumpier puree and then finger foods.

Lots of reasons but mainly because I was worried about choking and despite reading all about the gag reflex etc it still made me feel nervous, and also because they seemed to be very hungry babies and at least with puree etc I knew they were getting something in and seemed less frustrated.

Everyone needs to do whatever they feel comfortable with. I don't think there is a right way.

TeaMakesItAllPossible · 03/06/2013 21:52

I did DS4 the same way as the other three rather than BLW as we had a bit of a gap between 3 and 4.

Actually having the bigger children means you can do the way you're used to and they can have a little plate of what the other kids are having to throw hold and lick whilst you shovel purée in.

I think people should do what they're comfortable with.

thing1andthing2 · 03/06/2013 21:52

Be led by your baby. If he likes being spoon fed, do that. If he likes finger food do that.
I am so over BLW, I did it with my dd and she is the fussiest eater now. There were so many things she couldn't manage for ages because of not having any back teeth, and she won't eat any of them or even try them now.
I've done purée and finger foods with my second dc.

Jojay · 03/06/2013 21:53

Of course YANBU! There are many roads to Rome.

Do whatever feels right.

bellybuttonfairy · 03/06/2013 21:57

Do whatever you like. I blw all of my 3 dc as I found it easy. You baby is probably not ready yet so you just need to have the confidence just to leave them. If this stresses you then carry on with the puree.

monicalewinski · 03/06/2013 21:58

I'd probably just do it the way you already know - too much new fangled stuff going on now - it's a minefield!

maddening · 03/06/2013 22:01

it really must be the least contentious parenting issue :-) just do what suits you :)

Katienana · 03/06/2013 22:08

I was all up for blw but ds wasn't interested a 6months. I give him puree and finger foods and now 2 months in he is doing great. He can feed himself, even for purees he sucks them out of his fist! He's happy, I'm happy, thats all that matters.

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ItsallisnowaFeegle · 03/06/2013 22:12

Firstly, thank you ALL for offering your opinion and insight.

Despite having an (almost) grown girl, you can imagine after so long I feel like a first time mum.

I have heard nothing but BLW and when I first attempted it, I honestly stupidly believed that he'd just do it!

I'm going to do what I know now that I know 'my way' isn't regarded as wrong.

Thanks again

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DewDr0p · 03/06/2013 22:18

Go with the flow OP.

I did purees but always offered finger foods alongside. Dc1 got into them quite quickly but still liked being spoonfed, dc2 refused to be fed by me at all from about 7 or 8mo and only ate with own hands, dc3 was lazier and would still be spoon fed now if I'd let him (he's 6 )

I call that baby led!

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ItsallisnowaFeegle · 03/06/2013 22:22

Yeah, it hadn't occurred to me before because all the emphasis is on finger foods that BLW means just that...let him lead me!

Thanks everyone

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wintersdawn · 14/06/2013 21:32

If u want to do blw give it another two weeks and try again. I did it with my dd but at 6 months she was still only on milk, she didn't show any interest in food till closer to 7 months. I just used to offer food whenever I was eating something and when she showed interest I gave it to her and gradually increased the amount I was offering.
However other posts are right whichever way you do it they all end up eating only current research positive about blw over purée seems to be that they are less likely to choke on blw, but that research may well change soon!

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