WIBU to go on a date with

[SquirrelNuts]

my DC dads ( my ex) cousins son.

I looked at his profile and there is a picture of his mum, I clicked on her and I'm sure I met her at my exP mum funeral 5 years ago. My exP is on her friends list. I don't think he knows my DC are related to him, second cousins?
Is it weird? I should tell him shouldn't I? He was so nice as well, typical!

It is a bit weird and probably isn't worth the snotty looks and comments

He's your ex's 2nd cousin

Yes you should tell him but I don't think it's weird really...considering your kids are his 3rd cousins.

Worra may I be pedantic and say he's the children's second cousin? He's the ex's first cousin, once removed. Cousins work in generations so my first cousins children are my first cousins, once removed, my children are their second cousins and so on.

And yes, I'd stay clear!

I would but be honest with him.

It's not the OP cousin and even if it was its perfectly legal to have a relationship with a cousin.

Oh well I'll tell him, he might think its weird anyway im quite gutted!

It depends on what the break up was over and if there was lots of mud slinging/bad feeling etc.

If they are a family that like to have get together parties etc, it will be difficult.

You have to discuss it with him and think of any possible effect on your children.

I wouldn't say they were a close family. His side don't actually know the whole truth of why it ended because the arsehole wouldn't want to look bad!
Oh well at least I found out now, we'll see!

Definitely better you tell him now, than he puts a photo of you both on Facebook, your ex sees it and calls him with the news!

My OH's nephews Mum (his brothers ex) is now pregnant by the father of her first child's brother.

It's very messy and family gatherings are very strained, even the generally oblivious 5 year old (OH nephew) has picked up on it.

Though clearly there is a stronger family link in this case than in yours.

Laly - your OH has 2 brothers, one split up from his girlfriend and then his other brother stepped in (so to speak) to fill the gap?

Squirrel - I'd go on a date, no harm in that, but I would mention the family connection before it got potentially serious?

Sorry no, I didn't explain it well.

OH has 1 brother, who has child with ex. Ex has another child by a different dad. Brother of that dad is dad to current pregnancy.

Family gatherings is family gatherings of Ex's current partner and obviously his brother (1st child's dad).

See, this is how messy it can get! A relationship shouldn't need this much explaining!

I will have to say something just not sure how to get it into the conversation oh by the way my DC are your second cousins

LalyRawr, I think I understood what you meant! I find the whole second cousin twice removed thing so confusing!

I would spell out the "my dc are your second cousins" thing I'd just mention who your ex is and let him work it out if he's interested.

It depends how close your x is to his second cousin. I'm not close to any of mine. A second cousin is almost always nearly a stranger in my World

he does know my DC surname which would be his mums maiden name maybe he knows but hasn't said anything?