to not enjoy the company of some children?

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I know I'm the grown up and I keep my polite face on when in their company but some kids I just don't like.

Let out here Holly, go on give it an itch.

As a newish parent I was strong armed into looking after a tired, clingy 18month old who should have been with a regular care giver rather than passed around to a different person each day. It cried, I could n't comfort it, I cried, it cried some more, my daughter cried, I used to dread it. For three years after that couple of months if I saw the child anywhere I used to remember how how the poor wee thing had undermined my rather fragile confidence through no fault of it's own. And I dislik it for it.

A couple more years rolled on, hardly saw her then circumstances meant DD was thrown together with that girl. In my eyes it's now a completely different child, no trace of the whining, clingy baby I could n't help. I'm very fond of her now but I really need a clean break for a while.

My dd goes to nursery with a little girl who completely monopolises one of the other children to the point that she won't let other children play with this one girl. Her mother thinks its sweet that she's so keen on the other girl. I think she's turning into a little bully that needs to learn to share.

Some DCs are really, really irritating. I don't dislike them, they are only kids after all.......but I do find some extremely annoying. I actively avoid cafes with kids in.

The screeching, the running around, the wanting to be centre of attention ALL the bloody time and the general noise and mess . I don't find all of them annoying though and mostly I think mine are lovely.

Poppywearer, I'm in the same position, you put it so much better than I did.

Yes, Holly spill, you'll feel so much better for it.

I have no interest whatsoever in other peoples children either. Don't care if they are brilliantly behaved, they're boring to me. Leave me alone to play with my own. Loving the comparison with farts!

YANBU

Nobody likes all children. Children are just people at the end of the day, and it is not unreasonable to not like all people.

Some people are annoying, whether they are new to life and only 7 years old or have been around a while and are grown ups.

I hope this thread, and it's unanimous YANBU, sends a message to all those parents whose DCs do something they perceive as cute, and assume all other adults also think it's cute, that we don't, we can't care less!

YANBU. I remember strongly disliking my cousin's children when they were younger, to the point where I could barely bring myself to say hello to them when we met. They were rude, spoilt and bad tempered and her daughter was also quite nasty (at the age of five!).
They are both now teenagers and perfectly nice kids so I have no idea why they were so awful when they were smaller. But it was my first experience of really really disliking a child.
I find show offy kids very irritating - ones who also seem to be posing and pouting and looking form attention.

YANBU
I am a Cub leader

Yanbu, i love my DD and my sisters children, but some children just wanna make you punch the parents.

Especially the loud obnoxious little gits, and the ones that just cry all the time.

My DD on the otherhand, whilst midly annoying, is a rather pleasant child.

YANBU, they are just small people, all with individual personalities. Some are bound to be dicks!

Hmm OP I think you are probably quite sensitive and the 18 month old made you very sad. Rather than accept that as something you couldn't handle and maybe shouldn't have happened and move on, are you perhaps feeling guilty?

There are loads of behaviours in kids that I don't like, but I can never dislike a child. However, many children have such disruptive behaviours, like competetiveness, stealing friends, insecure clinginess, bullying, that I just don't tolerate that behaviour and as a result the child doesn't want to spend time with mine.

Perhaps you are one of those people who can't say no without feeling guilty OP?

Yanbu. Out of control kids are a pain.

Yanbu!! I have worked in childcare for over 10 years and 99% of kids are great, even though you feel like you could kill them sometimes, you get past it as generally they are good kids. Every now and then, and im talking maybe 4 or 5 tines in 10 years, you get a kid that you just cant stand!!! Its the big unspoken issue in childcare, but most people have it at some point!
Obviously i would never be horrible to a child or treat them unfairly while in my care, but sometimes everything that child does winds me up. Usually tends to be the immature, babyish children who have been overly pampered and never had to do a thing for themselves. Oh god it sounds awful when its said out loud!
I do love my job honest, its just very hard sometimes haha

There has only ever been one child I really really dislike (I am nursery nurse and have worked with hundreds) and that is my very good friends ds, its sad because its not his fault he is the way he is, its his mums for letting him get away with totally unacceptable behaviour. He is entitled, spoilt, moany whiny, violent and load of other things we shouldnt say about kids.

His behaviour is appaling and my friend loves him to bits but cant see the damage she is doing to him, she does not agree with punishing him

and on the times when he does make her mad and she says no sweets, no telly, no playing out she back tracks five mins later when he either kicks off and hits her or he says sorry and she feels bad for him. he is already a big kid and if she keeps allowing him to hit her then she will end up seriously hurt when he is a teenager and still doing it.

His behaviour has impacted our friendship now as I will not be told to stfu or kicked by own child so when he did it to me I will no longer meet her when he is around so I very rarley see her now, and when i do she is always complaining about what he has been doing and gets upset at the "bullying" teachers disciplining him at school.

There's nothing wrong with not particularly liking a child or not really enjoying spending time with them.

However I have come across some adults who seem to think that if a child is not their cup of tea they have the right to be nasty to them and denigrate them and that is not R.

YADNBU!!

I can't stand some of my friends children actually. I am slightly odd with children, either I take to them and really like them, or I just can't take to them at all. I just try to avoid direct contact. Again, I find it depends on how the parents (and it is usually mother in my case) is.

One friend has such a whiney DD, she's always crying and very in your face. It has always annoyed the hell out of me. She clashes with my DS as well. According to my friend though my DS is just as bed as her DD when it comes to them clashing. Personally I think it because her DD is an aggravating little sod and my DS doesn't like to be aggravated and is pretty vocal about it. Can't stand aggravating kids. Apparently according to another friend though this girl clashes with a lot of other children as well so it can't be the fact that it is my DS as much as her DD I think its the slightly indulgent mother personally

yanbu

there are very few of my friends dcs that i like, whoever said "hell is other peoples kids" has it spot on. i could never, ever be a teacher or CM or anything like that

i have never told anyone this in RL (obviously!) :o

About ago my small niece was quite moody, cried and sulked over nothing, went mad if she didn't win games etc. It didn't change the way I felt about her because I could see past it to all the nice things about her. But I do remember saying to my mum 'you know, if she keeps on going like that people actually won't like her' and my mother agreed.
Thankfully, with nearly a year of school under her belt she is now, at five and a half, a much calmer easier going child. But I could see how people meeting her for the first time could have formed a very negative impression at one stage.

Sorry, meant to start that post About a year ago....

I do not like every single child I come into contact with during my social life. Some children are irritating, or rather as people have said upthread, their parents are irritating.

But I have not taught a child that I disliked. Some have been extremely challenging but I liked them well enough. In fact, I have noticed that my affection for them spills over into thinking that they are better looking than other classes I see out and about on trips Perhaps it is something to do with the teacher/pupil relationship that is unmediated by parents?

Used to b a cm and the children in your setting sort of become 'one of your own' as in you see their faults but still care for them deeply. You would defend them at cost of your own safety just like your own kids.

Generally it's other stupid parents not the kids who are irritating.

Spoilt kids are usually much better without m

Oops without parents around as you can actually sort them out if you are in charge.

Most kids are great, its the parents who are daft.