"mother, I love you but in the name of God stop talking"

[dancingwithmyselfandthecat]

I am off work sick. I have an acute attack of sinusitis, my ear drum has burst and frankly I feel likebky face is stitched with razor blades. I am waiting for painkillers to kick in, cannot get comfortable and have thrown up twice.

So it is very kind that my mum has come over to look after me but why on earth could she not twig, ooh I dont know, when she was holding my hair back as I cried and vomite. Into a bucket, that ttoday I DO NOT CARE about her complaints about my father, the cleaner, her colleagues etc?

So I asked her twice, very gently to stop talking and then I said what I printed in my title and now she is wailing in thekitckitchen. I am too ill for this. AIBU to give her the following choices a) leave or b) calm herself down outside my fucking earshot and then not to speak again?!

I realise that I sound like an ungrateful twat but I feel so very very awful and her voice is echoing in my poorly ear.

Did you explain that? Ear ache is a pain you cannot get away from. I dread dd getting it.

You poor poor thing. Go to bed. Leave her downstairs watching tv. Best for all.

Sending big hugs for u to get better!!!

I am in bed with the dancing cat curled into me. Even she knows better than to purr!

Mum just apologised but she used about fifty words more than she needed to. I have given her my kindle, sky password so she can buy a film. She is a lovely woman but gets so overexcited when she is needed, and she has always been, by her own admission, a terrible nurse. Bad combo. Hopefully she'll calm down with a distraction.

Thank you for your hugs!

... another hug from me. Poor you, sounds crap. :(

Your mother ought to realise and if she doesn't, you told her. She needs to stop talking, just for a bit either that or become so sotto voce that your poor ears can't hear her.

Mine would do EXACTLY the same. Get well soon.

Sorry but I think you sound immature and ungrateful!

I have every sympathy about your illness but do you really need your mum to look after you? If having someone around is irritating then don't ask anyone over.

I expect everyone will say I'm an old meanie, but you did ask.

Wailing? Like properly actually howling crying?

Mintyy, I don't NEED her in the strictest sense of the word. But I did need someone to drive me to the doctors and collect my prescription and I have lost my balance which makes things like going to the bathroom very scary. So yes, I could manage without her, I could manage without anyone, but she offered and I feel much less vulnerable being in the house alone.

Ducks, yep. She sniffed in her and then started howling in the kitchen. She has calmed down now.

I sometimes wish I could say this to my three year old who doesn't stop for breath ALL day

ow. my ds crying when I had sinusitis was really painful. sympathies.

I've just remembered that I lobbed some chocolates onto my bed-ridden mum's lap at the weekend... she's just had a hip replacement...

I feel for your mum a little bit, she must be feeling a bit guilty not to have realised and for it to have dawned on her that actually, she's been contributing to your pain. You're still not being unreasonable though, ear/balance issues are horrid.

Oh lying .

I think it set her off because her mother was like this and she used to make me promise I would shoot her if she started doing the same! There was a "hilarious" incident when my mum wet herself in grandma's car because she was so absorbed in prattling to the attendent that she didn't notice my mum begging her To ask for directions to the loos.

She has helped me into the bath and is sitting, chuckling, on the other side of the door. I think its a PG Woodhouse. I can't ask her not to laugh as well, even if it feels like its lacerating my ears. That would be too cruel.