about morning routines?

[Thurlow]

This is hugely silly but long-standing debate between me and DP, so I'm going to finally open it up to the MN judges. Though obviously I am being completely reasonable, of course...

DP never gets ready in the morning at the same time as me as he works different hours, apart from maybe 3 times a year. I have a very finely worked routine to get me and the wannabe toddler up, dressed, fed and out the door in order for me to a) get her to the CM's before she leaves for the school run, and b) catch the train that gets me to work on time.

This morning DP was going to be getting ready at the same time. Last night he asked me what time I'd be showering, and when I told him a very specific time he laughed and made a joke about how I've always been so anal about my shower times on a working day (though being fair he does always work around me, he just finds it funny). Apparently he used to find this hilarous too before we had a baby, even though then I still had to catch an exact train to get to work for an exact time. Pre-baby I would might have got up a bit earlier if we both needed to be out of the house at the same time, but I'm not doing that now when there's two of us to get ready.

So - is it reasonable to be so inflexible in the morning, or is it unreasonable to have such a routine?

Was he laughing at you in a nasty way, or in a "ha-ha one of your endearing little habits" way? Because if the latter, it's a complete non-event IMO, and if the former this is more about just having or not having a routine. How specific were you? If you'd said "6.43 and 21 seconds" then you might be a little bit U.

I have a specific morning routine and if we have family staying when I'm at work I let them know I'll be going in the shower at 7.30am. We only have one bathroom/loo so if it's occupied when they have a call of nature they'd have to cross their legs - this way they get a bit of warning and it stops my dreamer of a SD making me late for work.

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I always find morning routines extremely useful. You can just do them even if you're half asleep.

Given your DP though, Thurlow, I think his comments could have been a lot worse!

I almost want to tell DP his way with words goes before him, but then he might look himself up and I'll get outed. But yes, he could have been worse!

Not nasty at all, Orange. Though I was reasonably specific . I just assumed that anyone who has to catch a specific train or bus or something like that just does shower at the same time every day!

I won't admit this to my DH but I'm rather in awe of how he gets DD and himself out of the house on time 3 mornings a week... I do it 2 days and luckily I work from home and I let the CM know I'll be there anywhere between 8 and 9am!

Yanbu . I like routine. Dh doesn't sometimes listen to me about timings so we end up running late and he regrets it. So stick to your times esp in the morning.

I'm a cm myself so have to have a routine or we'd never get to school! In sept I'm starting work 30 mins earlier and will also have our new baby who could be anything from 4-8 weeks old so think I'll end up being up an hour earlier to get showered. I currently get up at 7, shower, wake the kids up while I get dressed/dry my hair, do pack ups, other kids arrive then we go at 8.20 to school.

Exactly, twinkle. I get up at 7, DD wakes up by 7.30 and I need to have showered and got her bottle ready during that time, so naturally I shower every day at 7.10. Apparently that is what is so weird

I might have a later shower another day when DP is still in bed so that I am locked away in the bathroom when DD wakes up and starts hollering, rather than me catch her in time. That'll prove my point!

Work mornings are a military operation here as we have to leave so bloody early. One of my housemates used to have her alarm set at 5.33 as it took her exactly 27 minutes to get ready and she had to leave the house at 6. That's weird!

yanbu. We have a very specific routine and if I am not upstairs getting ready by 8am then we are late for school. If we have anyone staying and they are in the bathroom at that time I get very jumpy!

Hehe - sounds like me - but I don't have a baby to get ready.
If washing my hair (Monday, Weds, Fri) then the alarm is set for 6:23 (clock is 2 mins fast). I snooze it for 9 minutes and wake up to the 6:30 news - once this has finished at 6:32 (realtime) 6:34 my time then I get up and shower etc...
If I'm not washing my hair the the alarm goes off at 6:53 - snooze 9 mins then listed to 7 o'clock news which lasts 5 minutes so I shower at 7:05 on these days.
Show him mine - yours will probably look rather reasonable now!

It DOES look reasonable now!

DP is the one with the routine in our house! He leaves at 6.50am for a 7.30 start, so his alarm is off at 6.10 and in that 40 minutes he has a specific way of doing everything - heaven forbid something interrupts his routine!

hellsbells we are almost that specific in my house except I never shower in the mornings, always in the evening when I get home from work

Military precision. When my DM comes to stay she doesn't understand and she will for example give the DD's breakfast before they get dressed, which throws the whole thing out of kilter

Sorry, posted too soon

...out of kilter and makes me exgtremely grumpy and late for work/school.

PMTFO.

Military precision and routine is the only way of getting DC out of the house on time. I'm still perplexed why DP finds this so funny when we actually have a baby. But that may have something to do with him never needing to do the 8am drop off...

Glad other people have routines too, I feel less weird now.

Perhaps if he did the mornng routine thing more often he would understand. I don't have kids but still have a very specific routine and timings for things.

YANBU.

If you have to be at a CM's for a fixed time, and then catch a train at a fixed time, a morning routine makes perfect sense.