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Original poster

To bash on the floor??

29 replies

SteamPink · 03/06/2013 04:39

I live in a shared house. There is a girl in the bedroom below me. Sometimes (like today) she snores so loudly it wakes me up. AIBU to bash on the floor til she stops?? I can still hear it clearly through earplugs.

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phantomhairpuller · 03/06/2013 04:46

It's unlikely she'll hear you Hmm

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 05:00

I did. She has shut up. Goodnight Grin

Is it acceptable to do this every time she wakes me up?

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FarBetterNow · 03/06/2013 06:05

YABU

No, it's not acceptable to bang on the floor because she is snoring.

She cannot help snoring.

She may retaliate with noise much worse than snoring.

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 07:19

So I should just stay awake every time she does? I banged once, I doubt it would have properly woken her but disturbed her enough to make her move positions. I think if you snore loudly enough to make people up on other floors, that's pretty antisocial.

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 07:21

Make = wake

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manticlimactic · 03/06/2013 07:51

Earplugs are your friend.

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 07:52

That was through earplugs mantic!

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Montybojangles · 03/06/2013 07:54

Just how exactly do you think she can stop herself from snoring? What type of ear plugs are you using?

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 07:58

Foam noise-cancelling ones, I've tried others but these work best for me. Her snoring also wakes DP when he stays over; neither of us are particularly light sleepers.

I've never heard anyone snore so loudly except my grandad. It's not all the time, about once a week that it wakes me, and I suspect after she's drunk quite a bit.

I don't intend to wake her up but to rouse her enough so she changes position. What else would you suggest?

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Tenacity · 03/06/2013 08:15

How long can you sustain this? I think your only solution would be to move.

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 08:27

I don't know, Tenacity. Tbh she's currently job-seeking and I hope when she's employed the drinking will cool down and the snoring will too...

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ohforfoxsake · 03/06/2013 08:33

It doesn't solve true problem though, and she might take it personally if you complain.

Can you swap rooms with her? It shouldn't be so bad if she's above you.

ConfusedPixie · 03/06/2013 08:37

Move. DP and I moved last week after putting up with housemate being nocturnal for too long. Not the same as snoring but it's another thing you have no control over. This time round we made it clear that we expected to sleep at night, found somewhere within four hours! But then we had been browsing for three months and found nothing in that time!

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 08:39

I have no plans to complain! I know it's not intentional and she's a lovely person. She's also cutting down on smoking which may help.

I wouldn't want to swap rooms as we have exposed floorboards, she keeps her speakers on the floor and doesn't have rugs, and that'd be a lot louder. I chose the top floor so it'd be quieter...

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 08:46

Confused, good idea but I don't want to move in with DP for another six months to a year. This house is really cheap and I'm primarily there to save money, which I'd barely be able to do in a one-bed flat as renting is expensive here. I think I am stuck with the snoreasaur for the time being.

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Branleuse · 03/06/2013 09:17

maybe you should ask her to get it checked out, as it might be a medical problem

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 09:22

If it were someone male, I'd have no qualms about that, but as its a female I fear bringing it up would cause her to be embarrassed. I'd be embarrassed if it were me.

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MisselthwaiteManor · 03/06/2013 10:49

So you haven't told her she snores that badly? She might make an effort to cut down on the drink if she knew she was keeping you awake. I wouldn't be embarrassed at you bringing it up if I was her, I would be annoyed by you waking me up bashing the floor and not telling me why though.

AnnOnaMaus · 03/06/2013 11:16

I'd kill a housemate that banged on the floor about snoring. TALK to your housemate - she might not even know it's a problem.

Also, get better earplugs, and make sure you're wearing them properly, if they're foam ones from Boots (or the like), they're worse than useless, try an earplug specialist website instead.

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 12:14

Seriously, people think I should tell her?!

I'd be MORTIFIED if anyone told me my snoring was keeping them awake! I don't want to make her feel self-conscious about going to sleep in her own bedroom. I also don't think it's at all appropriate for me to ask her to curb her drinking - she's a grown woman! Realistically I don't even know what she could do - consider surgery to please someone she'll only live with for up to a year and doesn't really know?! It'd just make things awkward.

If she complained about my floor bashing I'd explain why. It's not like I'd doing a tap-dance, just one firm bash, after which she normally snores more quietly. I really don't think it's waking her up.

People reeeeally think I should tell her?!

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AnnOnaMaus · 03/06/2013 12:28

It's that or have her beat the living crap out of you for banging on her ceiling for no reason. Your choice.

These are the best earplugs, btw: www.snorestore.co.uk/acatalog/ultra-earplugs.html MrAna snores like a rhinocerous with a chainsaw, and if I can sleep through that, you can sleep through someone snoring in the next room with them in, frankly.

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SteamPink · 03/06/2013 12:33

Er, I'm pretty sure she's not going to do that. She's not psychotic, just a loud snorer... Thanks for the link though.

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MisselthwaiteManor · 03/06/2013 12:33

Yes tell her, banging on the floor won't help either of you in the long term.

MisselthwaiteManor · 03/06/2013 12:34

Even if she is mortified for a bit isn't it worth it if she manages to sort it and you get to sleep? Or maybe I'm just a lot more selfish than you!

AnnOnaMaus · 03/06/2013 12:36

So you'd rather make her angry by bashing on the floor at night and THEN tell her?

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