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"No offence intended!"

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Groovee · 02/06/2013 22:23

Twice this weekend people have said to me "No Offence intended but..." Then slagged off my husband. Then get stroppy because I've replied "But you have offended by slagging off my husband!"

Why say it when you really mean to offend?

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cozietoesie · 02/06/2013 22:25

They think it's a Get Out Of Jail card to allow them to spill whatever they want to.


IKnowWhat · 02/06/2013 22:27

It is a stupid thing to say. It's reminds me of the movie 'mean girls'.


TinBox · 02/06/2013 22:29

Yeah, people think it gives them a pass to say whatever they like. Along with "I'm not being funny, but" and "just saying..."


PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 02/06/2013 22:29

YANBU. But now I really want to know what's wrong with your husband.. wait.. are you Samantha Cameron?? No, that would be more than twice, surely?


crumblepie · 02/06/2013 22:34

for two people to slag your husband off in one week end he must of done something pretty offensive , im intrigued now .


HollyBerryBush · 02/06/2013 22:38

Do tell us why your DH is the subject of two conversations!


manicinsomniac · 02/06/2013 22:39

oh yes, 'no offense but ...' is always followed by something offensive. It's such a non phrase. If you're going to offend at least own it! Smile


WafflyVersatile · 03/06/2013 00:55

No offence but you should tell us what awful thing your DP did. Not being funny, just saying.


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MrsTerryPratchett · 03/06/2013 02:50

Why is everyone having a go at your husband? They were all right when they used to have a go at my ex-H.


Tee2072 · 03/06/2013 06:24

It's up there with "no disrespect" to signal whatever comes next is disrespectful and gives me the rage.


FarBetterNow · 03/06/2013 06:53

Maybe they think you should know whatever it is they are saying about him.

What has he done?


FarBetterNow · 03/06/2013 06:57

Maybe you are focusing your anger on the informants instead of your husband.


Groovee · 03/06/2013 07:48

He's become a coach for the sports team after the last one resigned and left the children with no coach with 3 days notice.

The 2 parents concerned think he won't do as good a job as the previous coach! He's only been doing it for a month and they keep going on about what a crap job he's doing! They're a couple so obviously they're discussing him at home and then thinking that they can get to him through me.

They haven't taken up my suggestion of helping him out saying "I'm keeping out of it!"

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Abra1d · 03/06/2013 07:50

How rude and ungrateful they sound! Your poor husband.


bigTillyMint · 03/06/2013 07:52

I agree - they are rude and ungrateful. Coaching a sports team is really hard work. I wonder why the last coach left? Could they have been moaning at him?


Groovee · 03/06/2013 07:57

The previous coach left after a fight with the club and the committee.

The dad also made a massive boo boo at yesterday's match, he sat bitching about dh and this that and the next thing and dh was sat below him separated by a wall and heard everything. Sad.

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Guerrillacrochet · 03/06/2013 08:09

Your poor husband! Nothing like the politics of a sports club committee... Half way between Game of Thrones and the Vicar of Dibley!


WafflyVersatile · 03/06/2013 12:59

That's nice of them. Not willing to help out themselves though, no siree bob.


nenevomito · 03/06/2013 13:01

Ahh, sports team hell. You can do no right with parents when you run a sports team.

How about "Not being funny, buf if he doesn't do well maybe your children just aren't good enough at X sport. No offense".


MatersMate · 03/06/2013 13:03

'Not being funny but...' No offence but...' and 'I'm no racist but...'

all followed by exactly that, bollocks to them OP.


ScarletLady02 · 03/06/2013 13:10

Your poor husband! I'm not looking forward to school age I must admit.

I had a friend who would say it really randomly - one example I can remember was "No offence yeah...but can you pass me the ashtray please"



Areyoumadorisitme · 03/06/2013 13:12

I'm constantly telling dc that if they feel the need to say "not being rude" etc then by definition they are about to be rude so best not to say any of it.

It's none of my business but....

As an aside, people who do nothing then moan about those who give up their time for kids activities drive me mad! Angry


OrangeFireandGoldashes · 03/06/2013 13:29

"Of course I haven't taken offence! To have done so would mean I actually give some weight and meaning to the nonsense spouted by a pair of windbags too lazy to get off their arses and do something about it even though they're clearly experts in the matter. Why on earth would I do that? So lovely to see you again, we must have one of these little chats again soon."

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