to display a picture of dp's ex on my wall?

[NachoAddict]

When dp moved in my two children already shared a room which dsd also shared when she came but she always called it dc1 and 2's room.

My brother who was using the other room has now moved out so dc1 now has his own room and I have redecorated the second room did Dd and dsd.

Both girls are 5 so to avoid a pink princess explosion we didn't give either girl a say in the decor and just did it as a surprise.

Dp thinks that dsd won't think of it as her room still rather she will just think it is dd's room. I really want it to feel like its her's too so thought I could get one of those multi picture frames for the wall with a picture of her mum and her new baby sister in, along with a pi,fire of her and her dad.

We all get along ok but dp thinks it would be a stupid idea. Aibu to think dsd would like it?

Thats actually a really good idea, maybe I could attatch them to the ends of the bed so you can see them from the bed but not from the doorway etc.

I have pictures of DSC with both their parents in their multi picture frames haging in my house exactly the same as the DC we have guardianship of . These are family pictures and families are a village who raise the children.

In Ds1's bedroom there is a massive canvas print of me, him as a baby and his dad. Dh has never objected to it and it's nice for ds to have something like that. It was farkin' expensive too so I'm glad someone in the world is getting use of it!

Its a lovely idea

When I moved in with dp I still put a picture of dd and her dad in her bedroom, dp had no problem at all with it. I'm sure there were pictures of him at his exes.

How lovely of you

It sounds lovely.

I have a picture BY my DP's ex on my kitchen wall - a lovely abstract painting!
You sound like you are being very thoughtful - its a nice idea.

I think that's unanimous then! We don't get many of them on aibu!

I think its lovely. Step parenting is never easy, but this is a lovely thing to do. My two ds are having their room done later in the year, and I know they want pictures of their dad, his girlfriend (who I'm just starting to refer to as stepmum) and their baby sister on the walls.

But we are slightly unconventional. Exdhs girlfriend and i are fairly civil. I went to their daughters christening, am going to her thirtieth with the kids and then having my boys half sister to stay overnight. The three of them came to ds2s birthday party too. It's important for the kids imo to never feel they can't talk about their other family or parent and to see all their family together at times.

Believe me its hard, but after four years I am honestly happy with my weird extended family, and so are the kids. so if they want photos up, then they can.

smokinaces. That sounds like a great arrangement. It's fantastic when the adults can act like adults. [Smile] I am sure it's best for the kids and I bet it's best for the adults too.

You often hear such negative step family stories on MN. It's nice to hear positive stories.

Oh believe me, a year ago mine would have matched those horror stories. But we all grew up tbh. And he baby being born helped mellow the stepmum and make her realise what parenting is really like, and also made me realise that I need to ensure my boys never feel that they can't see or talk about their sister.

We still have barnies, and no doubt bitch about each other as well at times, but on the whole we are honest and hard working at it. Exdh and i both come from divorced families which helped us learn what not to do tbh.

The only fly in the ointment is so far boyfriends on my part don't get it. But hey ho, someone will!!

smokinace that sounds like exactly the kind of set up we are aiming for one day. At the moment we. Only see each other at dp's mums house as she and ex are still quite close but we do see each other fairly regularly and text, call each other. Dp communicates with her less infact preferring for me and ex to do the talking.